My daughter is 15 mos old. I am due in January and this one is a boy. How do I get her to adjust well to the change? She is my pride and joy and I am very attatched to her. How do I deal with it too?
2006-11-28 03:35:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My daughter is 19 months and I just had a son in late October. She was always extremely jealous when other kids would get near me, and to my surprise, she is taking really well to my son. My hubby and I thought we were going to have some tough times ahead, but she adores the baby. When we are out and about, she loves to run ahead of us, but always comes back to check on the baby. If the baby is in the crib, she looks at us almost scoldingly and asks where he is (kinda like, hey he is supposed to be in your arms ALWAYS) Just be sure that you don't exclude her from being near the baby, remember to let her sit by you and the baby and you will have to teach her how to act around him. It may be difficult at first, but i am sure she will be ok. Good Luck
2006-11-28 10:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, having 2 children is much harder. Your daughter will likely resent her new brother, yes even at 15 mos. She is used to getting all the attention, and now here is someone new. She may adapt rather quickly though, so don't be too alarmed. Just make sure you spend time with JUST her on a daily basis.
As for you, you are going to be exhausted. You can't "take a nap when baby takes a nap". Take anyone's offer for help. You will be fine though, I been there...
2006-11-28 03:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by *me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! It's very challenging to have two children under the age of 2, but it can be done. You'll just have to be very patient, and try to line up as much help as possible. There are some very good tips in the book Kid Cooperation, by Elizabeth Pantley, in the chapter on Sibling Rivalry. Using a baby sling will be helpful because it will free your hands up to play with your daughter while also keeping your son content.
2006-11-28 03:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two youngest are 15 months apart. God bless ya. It worked for us to get our older daughter to talk to the baby before she was born. She got really excited about rubbing my tummy and learning the word baby. After the baby was born, the main time she got jealous was during feeding times. My husband helped a lot by playing with her, or if I was alone, we would read a book while the baby nursed.
She gets a little jealous sometimes, but it's not as bad as we feared. My youngest will be one in January, and they are starting to become really good friends.
It's a little scary to think about loving another one as much. Don't worry. Your heart is big enough. Take a little time each day to spend alone with each child. Even if it's 5 minutes, it will give you the fix you need!
Good luck to you, and congratulations!
2006-11-28 05:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will adjust, it might take some time but you are going to be a mother of 2 wonderful little babies, and they would be both your pride and joy. It will come very natural to you and your daughter.Congrats and Good Luck!
2006-11-28 03:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by TM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys will do just fine when he gets here. There's plenty of room in your hearts for another pride and joy. So don't worry.
If you want to prep her for a baby brother, try getting her a baby doll to care for. You guys can practice feeding and diapering together. Then when Little Bro gets here, she can be Mommy's Helper: she'll LOVE that.
2006-11-28 03:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that complex. Having siblings and being a sibling is pretty natural.
Children learn to love from example, so she'll learn by watching how you treat the baby.
She'll be jealous from time to time, but that doesnt mean she gets to act on it. Its natural, not a cause for panic and changing routine.
She'll always be your pride and joy, and so will your son.
2006-11-28 03:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an 18 month old when my youngest was born. Josh, my oldest loves his little brother. He hugs him and wants to hold him. He wasn't at all jelous. We made sure we spent a lot of time with him alone and had teh baby bring him a special present when he was born. It's been 6 months and Josh is just as in love with him as he was the day we brought him home.
We had to make sure that he was never alone with the baby, just in case he wanted to "love" him too much.
2006-11-28 03:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to still show her attention and not just focus all of your undivided attention on the new born but don't just focus on her try to give at least half to both. It is really important that you let both children know that they are important and not just one of them. Even though that baby probably will not understand words but he will understand love and attention.
2006-11-28 03:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by MzDoRight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 1st she might not liek the idea of a new baby tryin to take her mommy away so you just have to show and tell her that everything you do with him you will let her help you
2006-11-28 03:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋