I thought I knew my wife. She is quiet, reserved, out going on occations, loves to stay home and watch movies...etc. When ever I suggested we go out and do stuff (camping, dancing etc) she would always prefer to stay home. Now she is asking for a divorce and says she wants to be a different person. Outgoing, adventurous and says its my fault that we are not that way. What gives?
2006-11-28 03:23:56 · 8 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is not happy with her life or who she is. She probably thought that her life was what she wanted, but realizes it has not made her happy. Now she thinks she needs a big change to be happy. This is pretty typical for men, mid life crisis, buy a porsche or date a younger woman. It is human nature to blame other things for your disapointment and not take responsibility for it. The easiest person to blame is a spouse. I doubt it is your fault, but she has probably convinced herself that it is you and not her.
There could be a posibility that she met someone else and doesn't have the seeds to tell you so she conjures up some other reason for a divorce and again blames you.
2006-11-28 03:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like some wear their emotions on their sleeve, others can fake it indefinitely. I think it's not the actual physical activity (camping, dancing), but rather it's the mental connection and stimulation, where then camping and dancing just make that chemistry more fun. She is not feeling the vibe, or her quit, reserved self has found another guy, while you were at work??? In any case, if that's what she wants, then let her go. You can't force love and let nature take it's course. Look to the future>>>
2006-11-28 11:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mid life crisis. She wants to go out and party now. Talk to her. Seek counseling but let her have her space. If she needs a girls night, let her go, just as long as you also get a guys night out. Some people get bored easily with the same old routine (I'm one). Come up with ideas you both can do together also. Good luck
2006-11-28 11:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "If you felt restrained because of me, I apologize. I'm up for whatever you are. Let's get adventurous together!" How she reacts will tell you how truthful she is being with you about her reason for wanting a divorce.
2006-11-28 11:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Another Man.
2006-11-28 11:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by AVA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after six years you have been saying lets go out ,lets have fun and she would rather stay homeand now after six years she wants to break it off in my mind she is haveing some form of affair , does she go out by her self often ?
2006-11-28 11:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by sami-joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I know that when something doesn't seem right to me I question it. You didn't find anything suspicious at all about her behavior?
2006-11-28 11:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is using that has an excuse.... U can always change the way U do things..... she may already have someone.... seek counseling....
2006-11-28 11:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋