Psychologically... Do you believe that people who...?

Question

...Judge others (especially those that they do not know.) Come out in the end of their accusations having given away a few secrets as to the very things, that they themselves are, and hide?

I believe that...

"We try and mirror what we love, and reflect what we despise and accuse in others."

I for one believe that in the very act of judging anyone, you give away all of your (well hidden) problems and secrets!

"You are, first and foremost, what you accuse in others!"

Anyone else agree on a philosophocial or psychological level?

Any one know of any studies or theories (with a title) that back this? (Besides the Bible)

Maybe I should have added... MYSELF included. Completely LACKING pretension is understanding one's own condition!

"Judge not, lest ye be judged!"

It will be interesting to see from the responses... exactly who is effected, in what way and why after reading THEIR profiles and questions...

Irony... I wish it were candy!

Answer 1

at one time this would have described me to a t. Because I was always in a raging anger, I was taught to look at myself, and find the real me. I was horrified, to put it mildly, I hated everything about myself, and of course it came out as I hated every one I came in contact with.To Have a room full of 15 people tell you how you come across to them, and along time to reflect on their observations, made me make changes. I was accused of being immature, irresponsible,manipulative, possessive ,closed minded, judgemental,spoiled, and the list went on. I believed because I would sit and glower, and make snippy remarks I was impossible to read. Of course my first thought was no way not me, but they put it into writing, for me to study, and deny if I could provide proof .It was a life changing experience, it did not happen over night, but little by little I saw that every word was right, and in acknowledging this I was Little by little I have been able to change most of it, but not all.

Answer 2

I do agree to some extent.

To be very honest , I've seen this in myself too, in the past.

Eg I would judge someone for being cocky when I know deep inside me, I'm also very proud.

I see that in others too. Psychologically, we sometimes 'reflect' an image of ourselves on others and then accuse the other person . Could it be a guilty conscience , wanting to 'confess' something deep inside and yet too proud to admit it openly ?

However, I wouldn't generalize and say that it is always the case. Just sometimes.

Answer 3

This is an interesting question. I agree with it - I find that what annoys me most about other is what I don't like in myself.

I also think that this is because we are aware of what we don't like about ourselves and therefore see that in others. Have you ever been talking with a friend and been like, "Wow, this person annoys me so much because reasons A, B, and C." Then your friend is like, "Huh...I've never noticed that, but haven't you ever noticed that this person does D, E, and F and I can't stand that!" Because I find myself in that situation sometimes and that's awkward...

Answer 4

I tend to believe you because I do this. I've been trying to discipline myself not to and it happens when I am in the presence of people or person who does the same thing. I would do it based on jealousy or "just because." I have to work alot harder on this because I cannot let this engulf my life.

Answer 5

You really should talk with zigzaidiot...oops i bet you have. your beliefs that you state are quite intriguing but i tell you from experience of learning directly from the sages you are faulty in your words.Tennis anyone ? all one would have to do is to read your profile and see it is you you who are full of contradictions. as a sister i tell you ; other women mean you no harm it is from them you can learn most . you are no queen B ..so stop pointing your finger dear.

Answer 6

The qualities that we most dislike in others are the qualities that we most dislike in ourselves.