How to heal a sad heart?

Question

I have been with my husband for 18 years, and he is a wonderful and loving man, but there is times that I am looking for fun with him, but not to sound like I am ungrateful I just want to have fun with him for the rest of my life, but I find myself crying sometimes because there are so many things that is preventing me from having that fun with my husband...We used to have fun all the time and now we don't not that much..Tell me what do you think I should do to recapture the fun times that we had before?
Looking for a piece of good advice to heal my sadness from my heart! Thanks

I talked to a friend this morning who was having a hard time with his marriage but he has found some happiness and I was very happy for him and I do mean that with every bit of my heart, but I became sad because I felt that I would never find that fun and happiness I felt with my husband long ago.

Answer 1

Sad Heart,
Marriage is a wonderful thing but both of you have to work at it to make it work. I myself found that out when my wife told me she wanted to leave me after 28 yrs of marriage (I thought I was the happiest man in the world). Guess not as she wasn't (happiest woman). I'm going through with our divorce only because she doesn't want to be married anymore. I want her to be happy! Are you being a little selfish? Does this man work hard for you and his family? Think about it and try to get him to take a walk with you or even snuggle. The fact you can talk about it is great and now you need to share your inner most feelings with him to let him know, don't quit on your relationship without finding out if you could have done something different. Good luck and may God bless you both.

Answer 2

Start discussing this with your husband and not another male. No such thing as a "good friend" of the opposite sex. Only mutual friends. Also, stop comparing your relationship to others. Talk with your husband it is the best place to start and from there you can make adjustments. It is possible that he may be feeling the same way you are. It isn't unusual to be stuck in a rut after such a long time commitment. Don't give up. Ever heard that old song called the "Pina Colada song"? At the end it turns out that both spouses were feeling exactly the same. Take advantage of the holidays to put back some spark in your lives. Energy is contagious.

Answer 3

Bless you. The important thing here i think is that you WANT to put the fun back into your relationship. Most relationships go a little unfunlike after familiarity and time but the fact that you've had it and would like to have it again is very positive. Imagine, making a mistake and losing your husband to someone else and not having him your world (this is me right now) and you will soon realise what you have and set about doing things you used to do that made you both feel so happy with your relationship. I hope this helped a little bit. Red Poppy.

Answer 4

Let me tell you that I was kind of in the same boat as you. My marriage was in a rut, but recently I became so honest with my husband and told him what I needed from him and he didn't realize that it was so bad. We now have dates and we make love like we hadn't before we have passion for one another it's special.
Talk to your husband and let him know how you are feeling and be passionate towards him. He will love it.

Answer 5

Go to the place where you two had your first date or yes go on a romanitc getaway vacation for just the two of you somewhere where there is adventure and fun and romantic as well. If you need trip ideas go to http://www.cntraveler.com or go to http://www.fodors.com. Also have you even tried to tell your hubby how you feel.? Communication is always needed in a marriage to make it work.

Answer 6

Sounds like you need a vacation. Take a trip somewhere. ASAP.

Answer 7

take time to rest.

vacation is the closer healing treatment of your sadness heart.

Answer 8

I agree with "Kookie" and also don't compare your marriage to anyone else marriage.