i know that my penis is average size. its just a shade over 6", but i can the feeling that my wife isnt totally satisfied with me. i know size isnt all that matters but how much of a role does it play? she says she loves it and that she wouldnt want it if it were much bigger, should i believe her or is she just protecting my feelings?
2006-11-28 02:37:57 · 13 answers · asked by jimbo 12606 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
im not really being insecure, im just taking the opportunity to get some insight. like i said i know im not "small" , im average, i was just looking for some honest answers
2006-11-28 02:43:53 · update #1
Hi my partner is about the same size as you, and I say the same thing to him, we sometimes play with toys and penis rings and things and when he wears a ring it makes him bigger and harder than normal, and for me that can be quite uncomfortable.
I was with a guy once who was huge in that department, now maybe I have a small vagina, I don't know, but he couldn't get it all in and I was in pain not pleasure.
If I was you I would try teasing her more and more, more foreplay not just in the bedroom, use your imagination, all through the day, call her and tell her over the phone what you would like to be doing to her right now, leave her sexy notes where you know she will find them, make love to her mind before you make love to her body.
Give her a few orgasms before you penetrate her, further more communicate and ask her what she would like you to do.
Some women like a large one, but honestly she knew your size before you got married, if she was that bothered, do you think she would of married you???!!!
Maybe you just need to make her feel special again, take her out nice meal, woo her, romance her, be spontaneous, don't let sex be just in the bedroom if you know what I mean.
Hope this is what you was looking for, cant be more honest than this ;-)
2006-11-28 03:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Migz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a biologist that studies human sexual behaviour and there is no scientific proven fact that the male's penis size has anything to do with intercourse....so the scientific community has concluded that it is only for show....
The source of her disatisfacion may be in other places....try some new things...and make sure she has lots of foreplay and attention....that is very important and make sure that she has an orgasim before or if you can manage at the same time as you....some couple will to tell when each other can come and time it perfectly together to have an amazing experience...
Good luck...
2006-11-28 02:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your erect size is actually larger than normal. Average is 5," although wide variations occur.
See www.erectionphotos.com, that should put your mind at ease.
Instead of focusing on your size and lack of self-confidence, focus more on pleasing your partner. Woman like romance first: a nice dinner out, a trip to a movie or bookstore, and an opportunity to talk.
Then move things to the bedroom.
1. Use vulgar language when you have sex. Be vocal. Tell her your sex fantasies.
2. Tell her to get on top and pleasure herself. Tell her to ride you.
3. Use other different positions, get her legs up on your shoulders. Women dig that. (With your length, shouldn't be a problem for her Sometimes women have pain in this position, if the guy is too big.)
4. Learn about the g-spot on a woman, its slightly inside and on the topside of the vagina. Ride that a while. (it's described as the choir loft in the church...lol)
5. Learn more about how to give great oral sex on your woman.
6. Communicate with your woman about what she enjoys (but sometimes they don't like to tell and keep a guy guessing, so just "surprise"her --"take " her and show her who's boss, make it a little rough, moan and groan, use vulgar language to steam it up)
7. Learn about KamaSutra and tantric sex (which teaches you how to last longer and thus give more pleasure to the woman), etc.
GOOD LUCK AND GREAT SEX ! BE A STUD WITH YOUR MIND, NOT YOUR D(CKKK
2006-11-28 03:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex can be about the affection, trust and commitment between two people. Trust your wife re: your size and focus on other ways to satisfy her. Romantic things like bringing flowers or sweet things like doing the dishes will touch her heart. Do things together you both enjoy so you can feel like you did when you were dating and build the anticipation. Try to relax and trust her so you can focus and find joy. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-11-28 06:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Treadstone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me dude take if from anouther guy with a curse. No i am not small i am the oppisite. I am just a hair over 12. I have been with a girl for like three mouths. She let me get lucky at 1 mounth. But i didnt really get lucky until 3 mounths because it took two mounths just to sttretch her out enough so i could get in with out completly hurting her. So I really dont think iam lucky for being huge i would rather be 6 in then 12in. You can find ways to please her there are alot of books if you want email me and i can give you the name of a few books.
2006-11-28 03:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No-considering when i'm with a person I wish to supply him ALL of my concentration. I'd hope he feels the identical. Now if he is now not around and that i have to handle matters myself - that's an fully exclusive story. I do have some great fantasies then. As a matter of fact I suppose i am having one proper now. LOL
2016-08-09 23:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by vanburen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe her it doesn't matter. the shaft in the vagina is only about 4 inches long so u have enuff she prolly is jus a lil bored with the sex life try something new somethin u never did b4 a new position a new location if u always have sex on monday when u come home from work suprise and seduce her do it on wednesday before bed if u do it with the lights on do it with them off vice versa BE SPONTANEOUS!!!!!
2006-11-28 02:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. you're plenty big enough, if she's not squirming you need to practice technique.
Size is minimal in the scheme of things, it's what you do with it that counts. Get off the size obsession and start finding out what gets her motor revving. If she says she loves it, she loves it. Still find out what gets her going.
2006-11-28 02:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With so many real issues with keeping a marriage together theses days, if this is your only worry - it is not a worry!
Men put too much emphasis on the wrong areas of keeping love alive - true happiness comes in trust, sincere love, companionship and true care of each other!!!
It is all about quality of the relationship not the quanity of your equipment!
Get over yourself please!
2006-11-28 02:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it isnt about the size of the gun, is how you use that gun. if she isnt totally satisfied, try oral sex or other positions, try to use an stimulant for her, or move in a different way. maybe you are a bit cold in the bed, thats why she is like that, but your penis is of normal size, dont worry about it.
2006-11-28 02:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by Pinky 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋