This question is for guys please but girl feel free to answer
ok my husband watched our baby come out now from seeing all that he wont give me oral sex anymore what can i do to help him get over that so he will?
2006-11-28 02:15:57 · 21 answers · asked by new mother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just give him time. it's a very traumatic thing to watch.
2006-11-28 02:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there.
It never ceases to amaze me that women think seeing the delivery is joyful for a guy. You guys are the ones with the endorphins and Demerol. I don't think men were meant to see their wives ripped open that way. It kind of changes one's perspective. This is what you are dealing with. It's time to get back to some fun. Try some toys and have him watch. Do some lights on stuff. Make sure to give before you request oral. He'll get over it sometime. Keep him out of the delivery room next time.
I can't tell you how many questions women with new babies ask here about their husband not treating them like they did before the delivery. I'd love to know how many of these guys were there for the delivery. Guys were intended to to help deliver the animals.
They should boil the water for their children.
2006-11-28 02:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long ago did he witness your baby come out? If it was very recent, it might be too soon for him to separate the image of the baby coming out from the sexual aspect (although if it was very recent, I would think you wouldn't be interested in sex either...) Talk to hubby about his aversion. Is he disgusted, scared, does he think your vagina is a temple now, what is the problem? Make sure he remembers that having sex is what put the baby in there in the first place and that it is okay for both of you to enjoy all of the things you did before baby arrived. Try some aids, perhaps flavored ones. You may need to kick things up a notch in the bedroom to get him heated enough to do that. But above all try to communicate and ask HIM what the problem is. Let him know how much you enjoyed that aspect of your sex life and ask what he thinks he needs to resume that. Presumably he does not mind having sex, so remind him that that is just another aspect of sex, one that you'd be happy to enjoy again. And don't forget to return the favor!
2016-05-22 22:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching a woman give birth is not always a pretty thing. I know men that cant even stand the thought of having sex with their woman after watching her give birth because it is a total turn off. Give the guy some time to get over the trama.
2006-11-28 02:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Belinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully time will help him get over this problem...
Make sure you give him all the oral sex he wants and swallow
such that he knows you have no problem in taking care of his needs
which should make him feel some guilt about not taking care of yours.
2006-11-28 02:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since the birth? It could be just a way to fresh memory for him. I never had a problem but waited until my wife was fully ready before we got back into love making. Congrats to both of you having a child. Good luck
2006-11-28 02:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watched three kids come out and I still love given a good lickin.
2006-11-28 02:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a brazillian wax and make the area puppy smooth and soft (have it moisturized with pleasantly scented creams - quick absorbing ones, not ones that stay and leave a taste in his mouth), expose yourself to him. He is bound to be turned on by what he sees. Get on with pleasing yourself in front of him before you get down to the act together. He may be tempted to help you please yourself.
2006-11-28 02:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by happykat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I watched my children be born and I have no problem with it whats so ever.maybe you should explain to him how good it makes you feel and if he dose not give in put you lovly body on strike ....
2006-11-28 03:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by littlefun42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea, i see my babies come out too and i still want to give my wife oral. so i don't know, what is he's problem
2006-11-28 02:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋