Im stressing out about my 12 year old son who has started secondary school as he is so disorganised. Any tips

Answer 1

Help him organize at home first. Make sure he has school "stuff" in an appropriate place at home - a drawer, a cabinet, a desk, wherever. Just keep it in the same place, and don't allow him to move it. Make sure he works on homework at this place every time he has work.j
Unfortunately, he's going to be on his own at school, and he'll have to learn the hard way about being organized. You can buy a different spiral and/or folder for each class - be sure to COLOR CODE THEM, so he won't grab the wrong one. And let HIM choose which colors go with which classes - he'll remember it better if it's "his" system too. It sounds "geeky," but buy him a pencil pouch and put pencil, pen, calculator, small ruler, and small pack of colored pencils in it. He should take the pencil pouch to EVERY class EVERY day so he won't be without necessary items.
Find out when his homeroom is. Pop in once or twice to see what's going on. Talk to his homeroom teacher and enlist his/her help with your child's organization (It's easy - all they have to do is talk to the whole CLASS about it; give tips, help gather materials, etc.). Ask the teacher to remind your son once a week or so about his organizational skills. Check out his locker. See how (if?) he organizes it. Do this AFTER SCHOOL so the other kids don't see! If it's a disaster, talk to him and get HIS ideas about how he could rearrange it to be more effective for his use - morning class materials in the top/afternoon class materials on the bottom, etc. Also, Wal-Mart has locker shelves that are pretty neat, and there are also little magnetic pencil holders that can be put inside the locker door for "extras' when he's without a writing utensil.

Answer 2

Let him be shown the troubles of being disorganised (must have been done already).
let him face the problems - if his homework copy is lost - or cant find his day to day things - let him suffer - now tell - this wouldnt have happened if ... hopefully he would understand.

help him with - things to do lists - organisers - phonebooks - schedulers - and like.

mark him places in his room definite for his knicknacks and checkout that he follows for his own benefit.

he will get organised once he finds the fruits in being one.

Answer 3

Get him a folder for each class. Have him label one side "homework" and one side "turn in". When he gets an assignment, he needs to put it on the homework side. That way each night when you check his binder, you know what work he needs to work on and what is completed. When he completes an assignment, it moves to the turn in side of the folder. When he gets to class he can see what needs to be turned in at a glance.

When he gets work returned to him, have him put it behind a tab for each class.

Getting him into the routine of this system will take a while, but it is effective once he has it down.

Answer 4

Sure. Don't be so bossy, and let him figure out what works best for himself. Just let him know you are there for him, should he have any questions. Why drive him away from you with you "telling" him what he "has to do"?

Answer 5

talk to the teacher or principle