Not wanting sex very often?

Question

Hi

Me and my partner have been together now for 5 years, we are enagaged to be married and are very much in love, so why don't we have sex as much anymore. Its gone down to about every 6 weeks now. I just never feel like it anymore. Does anybody else feel this way?

Answer 1

yes ...
i think u need to try something not some1 new. give it a boost, try different positions, and places, maybe toys

Answer 2

Every one gets like this. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 years now and our sex life has slowed from 5 times a week to maybe once every one or two weeks. However, our relationship has improved in every other way. We are very close and very much in love - like you and your partner are. Relationships change over time. One thing I never do though is deny my boyfriend sex. Even if I'm not feeling like it I will never reject his advances because I don't think that's fair. He's the same with me.

Answer 3

Sometimes sex drive can drop and needs a little help in getting back to where it was before. There can be any number of reasons for this, none however are very serious.
Talking about the situation is a good start and discussing the things that you enjoy most and the things you don't enjoy. There are loads of books out there that can help. A very good one at the moment is How To Have Great Sex For The Rest of Your Life.
Have a look on Amazon, it's bound to be there.

Answer 4

Me and my partner have been together for nearly 7 years and sometimes its non existent and every now and then we have a splurge of energy! What with working and children and the weather, it's quite natural to not have sex so often! If you both want to spice things up, switch th tv off and try out each others fantacies or use sex toys, dress up or try being romantic.

Answer 5

lol
i know the feeling
but i make an effort
im 4 and a half months pregnant and it seemed to be more of a chore than about the act itself
but im ok now
it comes and goes in stages
u just need to re ignote the passion
take a holiday away from everything and everyone , even if its just 3 nights it does wonders to your sex life
all the best hun!

Answer 6

In long term relationships it seems to be the norm. It's the comfort factor.
it couild also be if you have children or don't even talk very much.
Try doing more things togetheer having laughs just being silly like water fights and I gaurentee you will get that spark back
Try and spice things up with hot baths / Showers together massages etc.
Good Luck
Jeff

Answer 7

Wow and my man moan about once a week. Try getting out and about more and doing new things. See each other through fresh eyes. Having said that I would swap places with you, I would enjoy the time off.

Answer 8

Just take the initiative and do something different to him. This will set things off and you can take any direction you fancy. Try the licking off honey or chocolate routine. Try the kiss me all over one. Oh there is so much just give way to your imagination.

Answer 9

Count your blessings - I haven't had sex with my husband for more than 6 years (and we've only been married for 16 years!)

Answer 10

i think everyone else has said it all for me.

make the effort

talk to each other

have some 'u n me time'

go on a date with your fella. that can be fun.... meet in a bar or pub and pretend you dont know each other. let him chat you up. etc etc....

but you have to make the effort.

good luck

Answer 11

You need to break the routine, move house, get out and about do stuff. Try shagging in parks of the countryside, etc.