I cannot escape the chios in my life. Born in 1969 middle child of 3 girls, born to an alcholic father and mentally ill teenaged mother. My childhood to say the least was full of abuse, all types. My family tree consists of immigrants from Germany and supporters of the KKK. My grandmoter killed herself by drinking Lye soap and my other grandmother was a prostitute. Family chios creeps into my life with no escape. I have always known I was different from them, but I still can't escape the guilt and there seem to be no avenues for someone like me. My father passed away a year ago at 60, the kemo killed him. I am currently trying to take care of my narcacistic mentally warped mother. I do have four beautiful kids and a hot hubby, but when grandma tries to kill me and claims to be the devil, well it gets pretty heated. NOONE seems to beable to help, I really try to laugh so I don't cry. My question, is it possible that I am just one of the people born into misery forever?
2006-11-28 01:51:50 · 9 answers · asked by Laura M 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wow god bless you,
2006-11-28 02:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why isn't grannie in some sort of home? there are places that take medicare and will take care of her and you need not even visit her. You need not burden yourself with her baggage. Leave instructions at the home where to bury her when she passes. Or in her case you might want to just cremate and scatter.
You have a husband and 4 kids to take care of you have your own wonderful family.
My guy had a horrible family that I wont' even get into here. He rose about all the horrors and all the cycles he could have got himself into. He has a wonderful life but he has no connections to the rest of his family.That is how he keeps sane and happy.
You need to do the same. Let go!
2006-11-28 10:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you allow misery in your home. Stop thinking about your background and focus on what's coming. Four beautiful kids and a hot hubby are five beautiful reasons to live, remember that every time you get stuck in the past.
2006-11-28 09:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by guicho79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is possible. I know the feeling. My parents also have some mental issues although they think they are fine. I believe I have inherited that. I have been miserable for 29 years. I find happiness in small things here and there but overall my life sucks. Am I cursed to be this way or is it because I think I'm cursed that I can't change my life, I don't know?
2006-11-28 09:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to have an upbeat attitude and keep laughing it off..Dont carry the past problems onto your children..
Go to church and talk to God...He will help you through everything!
I also am from "disfunctional" family...my father went to prison for child abuse and is now in a group home for mentally disturbed people...
Most all of us have problems.. Hang in there hunny, and be gratefull you have a loving husband and children.
2006-11-28 10:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by multipure417278 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put your mother in a state hospital and go on with your life,move away from the town your in an take that nice family you have and start living,good luck
2006-11-28 10:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by john doe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget everything and go for a long drive for a week or so, then you will definitely see life in a more brighter prespective., detach yourself from all your mental/physical and moral bindings for a while and see how great life is.
2006-11-28 10:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Aravind K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the man that could answer that question with a pithy thought of the day is JERRY SPRINGER. I suggest you apply at once.
2006-11-28 10:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Didn't you get banned from Yahoo Answers?
2006-11-28 09:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Existentialist_Guru 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋