Let's say you are in a 10 year marriage, and you have been with your mate since high school. You are considering a divorce, although you knew you would walk away with a half of a million dollars in debt...Would you go through with the divorce? OR Could you wait until you were more financially secure and stable?
Divorce, or Drag it on?
2006-11-28 01:45:58 · 16 answers · asked by **Lil QT** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
together, you are financially secure and pay all of your bills...but your husband is a property owner and owns many homes. in the state we live in, no matter if your name appears on the titles or not, you will carry that debt if the two of you were to divorce.
people change from adolescence to adulthood, and of course there is a love there, but not the kind of love and passion that a woman needs at age 29...
2006-11-28 02:04:59 · update #1
no children are involved...
2006-11-28 02:07:36 · update #2
"Money can be earned but the opportunity to get a peace of mind sometimes only comes once" If life is a living hell how can you possibly be able to make it sustainable. If you can't work properly you will never be able to concentrate in making your other aspects of life better such as: financial situation, social relationship, work relationship, mental situation along with your internal and spiritual side. Cure the problem then get on with life. If your marriage is really beyond repair you just have to let go and move on. You cant move on if you have extra baggage to carry. Life is short, your children will understand if you would explain to them.
2006-11-28 02:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rochelle5969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a half of million dollar in debt that a lot of money and i dont think you could get a head in this game that why you are looking at your option of getting a divorce because of money problem.but if you didn't have money problem you would stay marry isn't life funny the value you took when you got marry for richer or poorer though good time or bad time well it sound like you are going though a real bad time know and you are bailing out of your marriage this is not common a lot of people do this good luck
2006-11-28 09:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if i really dis liked this man i would leave him becasue what ever makes me happy is good for me. yeah i may be in debt but thats what jobs are for! and not only that, you can find a place that will except your bad credit and you can make it better so you credit will go up and once your credit goes up you can take out a loan from a bank and use it to pay off your debt. then with the job that you have you can pay off the loan! but if you really "love", if that still exist, him then stay so what if your unhappy and he's cheating on you and gave you an STD. he's your husband. oh well it's okay if he doesnt love you and treats you like crap! it only makes you stronger. or wait no it makes you stupid! sorry. id leave the bastard!
2006-11-28 09:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Oh_man_thats_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On Oprah's website there is a section on relationships. I'm going through something similar and the phrase "If the horse is dead then get off...." (or something like that) really got my attention. Get a good atty and file bankruptcy. It is very easy to start over today. If you are that far in debt, you'll never get out. Sorry for the reality check. Do what makes YOU happy. Oh, and since you've been married for 10yrs, if he dies unmarried you are entitled to his SS benefits. My mom did it. Get out and be happy!
2006-11-28 09:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know someone in that situation and shes decided to drag it out and be in a living hell for a few more years so she can be more financially secure.
Personally, i would leave...i couldnt take it. I cant be in a relationship where im sad, depressed, etc all the time.
2006-11-28 09:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on... the debt is covered by the property... at most all the property could be lost... if the property is rented out, the debt will handle itself... Do yourself a favor and find happiness...
2006-11-28 10:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only money. Life is too short to be miserable. I spent 10 yrs in a crappy marriage and thinking back on it I wish I had gotten out in 5. Dont wast your life being misreable.
2006-11-28 09:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener-----where it's watered. Stay and fix the problem. Nobody ever wins in a divorce. Fix what went wrong and start loving again.
2006-11-28 09:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. Financial issues shouldn`t rule one`s life. It`s a lousy way to live.
Do what you gotta do and dont think about it more.
2006-11-28 09:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Showing your true colors, girl.All that love talk you used to give him was trash.Wy are men that stupid?Hope you got a good lawyer,because Mr.Rich could ruin you financially.
2006-11-28 10:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋