She is a single woman at the end of her tether. They have a shared reponsibility for their son. Her ex (the childs father, obviously) moved on and is living with someone else and they both work. Not sure if THEY have kids together. But ex is effectively bullying my friend into paying extra for things. Like "give me 20 quid for xxxxxxxxxx". She has said that if her son wants things then she will certainly pay for him to have them but not give him cash in hand, so to speak. Where does she stand?
2006-11-28 01:26:09 · 9 answers · asked by wrighty1976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definately not me. But thanks for asking!!
2006-11-28 01:34:47 · update #1
Typically a child support enforcement agency garnishes the required child support from a payer's wages based on a court order. Once they collect the money they distribute the money to the payee. Your friend doesn't have to pay anything that isn't in the child support order. Obviously she might choose to pay for other things, but she could take the child shopping herself for those items rather than giving cash to an ex.
2006-11-28 01:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by James Y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I are in a situation where he pays £442 a month for his 7 year old son, who lives over a 2 hour drive away now and we have to fork out on top of that for fuel for him to go see him every other weekend. The CSA have not taken this into account and still they charge us a small fortune, on top of that he is giving her extra money for school uniform, book clubs, private after school activities, games etc....which we cannot afford. She is making a mint out of us and spending it all on her other kids. My advice stay away from CSA they dont listen to you and they are happy to charge you back pay but if you make overpayments they dont give it back, if they incorrectly take money they dont give it back...Its better you work out your own deal, get a parental responsibility (through courts) and keep reciepts or pay her/him through your bank...CSA bleed you dry!
2006-11-28 01:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have just set up an account with the csa my self to pay for my daughters up bring. but even if your friend is working. he still has to help towards the childs up bring. it is 20% of his net pay. but reduces when the child stays with the farther overnite i think its 17% for 2 nights. like i said im a farther my cercumstancess are abit diffrent but on same theory. tell her to set up with the csa they will sort it out its not that complicated. i set up mine becouse she wanted more and more but csa is a good way to go so dont let the working put her off she is still entiteled tel her not to worry.
2006-11-28 01:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by taylor1product@yahoo.co.uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so far i have put an application through to the CSA twice, the first time they claime to have lost my application even though all my details were recorded and the second time they lost it again!! so i gave up!! my ex doesnt pay towards my daughter but then he never asks to see her too. If he is hasseling you for money go see a solicitor, find out if you can get legal aid to help you out with costs, its not just your responsibility to be paying for the child its his too and he shouldnt be coming and asking when ever he wants.
Maybe she can come to some sort of agreement with her ex:
when the kid is with him he pays for everything and when hes with her she can pay for what he needs.
government agency's are c r a p when it comes to helping out!!
2006-11-28 01:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by life_vamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not work is the blunt answer they dont have a clue how to get it to work. I know a person is paying CSA £150.00 a week but his wife gets nothing. when she asks CSA THEY FOB HER OFF WITH SAYING "THEY HAVE BEEN VERY BUSY" (FOR 2 YEARS) I DONT THINK SO. THEY ARE ANOTHER GOVERNMENT WASTE OF TIMERS.
2006-11-28 01:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by GLYN D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son as been paying every month for his daughter for the past 6 years . he pays directly into is ex bank. now is ex as got in touch with csa .what happens now does any one know
2015-01-18 09:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im sorry to say the CSA is pretty much gone!! It was over loaded and the government just gave up on it...
2006-11-28 01:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by pinkkitten 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if they have joint responsibility then there is no money going back and forth when he stays with one they pay and when they stay with the other that one pays so no money should be going back and forth. When he stays with his dad he should pay for what ever he wants not have the mom pay for him to go out with his dad.
2006-11-28 01:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by christina c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a friend of yours or you
2006-11-28 01:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Wael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋