So much so that he is pawning things, utilities are getting cut off. I'm sooooooooooo angry we have 2 children and I think about divorce all of the time. Once upon a time things were really good and they have progressively gotten worse. I also found out he was talking to a girl at work before and after hours but he insists it is work related. Yeah right! Anyway, I'm only staying for a babysitter and (part of) a paycheck! That's bad isn't it?
2006-11-28 01:22:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes that's bad. When you say babysitter do you mean your drug addicted husband? If so, then your just as bad as he is. If you can't convince him to get help ...then you need to protect your children and leave him. This will only get worse not better.
2006-11-28 01:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by April L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling, I have found misc. pills around the bedroom. Not knowing what they were I have done some searches on the net. Typically pills are stamped with a number, you can put that number into a search engine and you might come up with a name of the pill. When I found these pills, he claimed they were those diet pills, I knew better and checked it out for myself. My husband's friend's wife works as a nurse at a cancer hospital and I know she hands out various pain killers to people. With a good source of free meds I was worried for my husband, but luckily he stopped. It's scary, people can easily get hooked on them. That sounds like the problem you have especially since he's so desprite that he's pawning stuff, and you can't make ends meet.
If I were you, I'd leave. Sorry & Good luck
2006-11-28 01:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd put him out. I wouldn't stand for someone pawning things that I paid for and getting utilities cut off to support their habit. Me and my children deserve better than that and I would not go through this with anyone. If I had to work 2 or 3 part time jobs I would do it. He could talk to another girl all he wants, I don't care. My children come first.
2006-11-28 01:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart feels for you, this is a problem that only gets worse ,if he dose not get the right help. you need to talk to him, and don't hide anything, pain killers are very addictive and only lead to hard ed drug's. you can get everyone in your family involved even your children ,so that he knows how much he is loved, divorce is not the answer, you never hit a person when their at their worse, he has to know life is a gift .and love is the second, he will be very angry when he hears what you have to say & how he has hurt the family, he has to make a choice to get help ,no one can do it for him he has to want the help,he has to go in to a rehab to get off benzine's. you have to understand he's not himselve right now, it's the drugs controling his mind. be there for him ,be patient recovery from any kind of addiction takes time and is a life time battle with choices he has to make, no one is perfect and life has it's up's and down's, you have the right to be anger, but turn that anger into something postive, get every family member together and sit down and talk to him, let him know how you feel, because the bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone, i advise you to speak with your heart, and learn to forgive, honey love doesn't just sit there, like a stone it has to be made like bread; re-made all the time, he will want you to feel pity ,just tell him pity cost nothing and ain't worth nothing.he must change in order to surive.for you and your family i wish you many prayer's and remember ability is what your capable of doing.motivation determines what you do, attitude determines how well you do it. he's going to need you more then ever! so be his instrument to bring back what you have lost in your marrage, hope, faith,light , joy, and peace. let him hear your wispers to your heart. i wish all the best to you and your family. he can beat his addiction. may you and your family be on the wings of a angel. peace and light.
2006-11-28 02:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a tuff one. My advice to you is to look out for the well being and safety of you and your children first. It is hard but you have to. You will get to a point where you will get fed up with it and you will know what to do. You are going to have to take a stand some how and let the person know how you feel and why you feel like that. Set boundaries telling them what will happen and then when the person goes over the boundary set then you need to act. Look deep into your heart and think about what is best for you and your children and you will figure out what you need to do.
2006-11-28 01:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Glove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I'd do, in order:
1) ASK him, don't confront and criticize, just ask him if he has been abusing
2) If he says no, point out all the reasons why you feel he does indeed have an abuse problem
3) Explain how you feel this problem is negatively impacting him, you, and your children
4) Ask him to seek help, tell him you will support him all the way through
5) Stand by him if he decides to get help; it'll be a long, hard road, but it'll be worth it if it works
6) If he still refuses to get help and denies any problem, as well as continues to put your family's safety in jeopardy, I'd leave and seek a better environment to raise your children in. This may in fact, wake him up to reality.
2006-11-28 01:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on you will get a pay check if you do it is called child support and if it isn't working for you then gte out but then again you might want to wait until the holiday are over for the kids
2006-11-28 02:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears your marriage is spiraling down the drain...
How much longer can hubby hold onto his job ?
You need to start making arrangements to move out on your own.
Can you set aside any money ?
Do you have relatives you could stay with for a while ?
Do you work & earn enough money to live on alone ?
Do you know any men who might be interested in caring for you ?
2006-11-28 02:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to divert his attention and keep him busy with things hes interested in .
of course for this u have to know him much better and may be u will have to take help of ur near and dear ones for this too
as u cant do this alone for long
2006-11-28 01:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats life-sometimes it sucks-but you should try to get out anyway-do you really want your kids around when he loses it and turns his anger on you guys-people addicted to drugs do that
2006-11-28 01:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋