Have you ever had a bad rumour spread about you?

Question

I'm asking because someone's spreading a bad rumour about me and I'm so down about it. I was wondering if anyone's experienced something like that before and what you did about it, and how long it took to go away cuz it's never happened to me before and I don't know what to do. Any help would be appreciated as I don't have a clue what to do about it.

Answer 1

As the Churchill dog once said - "Oh yes". It was a pretty bad rumour too, and had about 50 different versions. It went on for years and really sent me downhill. I was accused of something really bad, but I just stood my ground until they slipped up.

Because there were so many versions of the same rumour, not even they knew which was the rumour they started. When they slipped up, I just knew it was all going to fall to pieces.

All you have to do is tell yourself that it is only a rumour and there is no truth in it. It doesn't make it easier to understand why it was started in the first place, but it gives you some kind of cushion to fall on.

Hope it helps, and, whatever anybody else says, I believe you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Yes, I have had something similiar happen to me. As long as there are people, there will be malicious people who desire to cause you harm. It's tricky knowing how to best handle a situation like this. On the one hand, you don't want to dignify the accusation and/or rumor with a response and if you protest too loudly others will think there's something to it. It also doesn't help that the person who is spreading the rumor is probably so envious of you for whatever reason...and is probably a miserable person. But, your character is on the line and your reaction to this situation will be evaluated by others--including those closest to you. Somehow you must gather the strength to protect yourself...in whatever manner that is necessary. You cannot allow this person's harmful intent to cause you to get down about it or be miserable. You can't control anyone else. You need to control your own actions and think carefully as to what would be helpful. I think I'd avoid the person who spread the rumor to avoid further drama because they want to gain your attention. If someone close to you addresses the rumor, ask them if there is anything about you that would lead them to believe it is true. I think I'd take the quiet approach and let the situation develop however it does. If you express your denial of the rumor to anyone and everyone you know it will seem like there is some basis for it. So....avoid the rumor monger, avoid the drama, and hold your head high until this crazy person reveals himself or herself to the world as a nut case. There's only so much you can do and chances are the person spreading the rumor is not viewed as credible anyway. Good Luck

Answer 3

Ignore it on the whole. You know that it's not true, so who cares?

If anyone asks you if it's true or not, then simply say "No, it's just a rumour". Use no emotion in your voice and nobody will know it's bothering you. That way the rumour will die off. If you show it's irritationg or hurting you, then the rumour will spread and the malicious person who started the rumour will know how to get to you and will keep it up. Trust me, I know what this is like. I showed emotion and the rumours stayed around for ages.

Answer 4

yes, just ignor it and hold your head high since you said it was a rumour it is just that a rumour your true friend know the truth and have you heard the saying the more you stir a pot the more it stinks That is what it is about the more you talk about a rumour the longer it takes to go away because it is being brung up again and again in peoples mind just leave it alone there is nothing you can really do about it . and whoever started the rumour is not your friend. if you don't give credibilty to the rumour will go away

Answer 5

I have, and yes, it can be awful. The real problem with rumours is that there is generally one small grain of truth in them, so the denial process makes you look like a liar, breaking the rumour down into what is and isn't true.

You needn't worry about 'everyone' believing the rumour. Explain yourself only to those who are important to you. Remember that if you keep talking about it, you will extend the life of its circulation. When the rumour about you has bored the gossipers, a rumour about someone else will come along and take its place.

Answer 6

I have this wonderful experience being in the center of issues. I called it wonderful coz it made so many wonder in the eyes of people. The first thing I did is get pissed. thats normal. Second, I confront people who have said it. third, if it isnt true, tell them with a laugh. but if its half truth, admit it. Hurting is basically half truth of what has happened coz you will not feel offended if you didnt contribute any act as in "clueless". Our emotions are stirred when the real issues were brought in the light. It is your attitude towards the rumor will validate if its true or not. Truth is the antidote for any seeds of unbelief that these people had inflicted in your life. Walk with confidence and deal with people as if nothing happened, will take all this things away very soon.
Be confident. Rumors will never ever take away your identity. Do not fear.

Answer 7

If you know the source of the rumor, the real source, approach that person alone this is not a group thing and you don't need a scene. It's more effective this way. Let this person know exactly what you know. Tell them you know it came from them. And if this person has anything they want to get off their chest now would be a great time to do it. Since your alone all this person has are lies, he/she will cower and your problems will be solved. Oh the rumor......it'll go away. Lies have a way of doing that.

Answer 8

When I was a freshman in high school, this guy liked me and I really didn't feel the same. He was so mad at me, that he was telling people that I gave him herpes (cold sores). I had a wonderful best friend at the time and she would tell him to knock it off and so on and so fourth. I lived thought it and I starting dating someone serious the following year(he was much bigger then him) Just keep your head high and try not to let it get the best of you. Rumors eventually die, it just takes time.

Answer 9

Awww that sucks so much.
I had bad rumors spread around middle school about me. I didn't want to go to school for like a week. It faded away when people started to realize that they were untrue about me being The Principal's lover.

Answer 10

I have had several bad rumors spread about me so I dont really know which were the worse ones. In most cases I simply forgot about them and they eventually went away.