I love my wife with all my heart. We have had many problems lately, I have been trying so hard to save our marrage but it seems she is not putting forth any effort... how long should I keep trying?
2006-11-28 01:01:44 · 23 answers · asked by dan d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave now. Move on.
2006-11-28 02:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to divorce anymore and hard to stay married. If you truly love her and want to work this out then all efforts have to be put out on the table. She has to know where you are and how you feel (how you truly feel). You need to tell her everything no matter how hard it is and after doing that you will most likely know what direction to go from there. You will know if she wants to try or if she has given up. Someone once told me that I would know when I know and I didn't really think that was possible, but I was in a similar situation and after 15 years I finally knew. It was as if I got hit upside the head with a brick and I knew. I was at peace with my decission and that is where no matter what you decide to do is where you will be eventually. Good Luck
2006-11-28 01:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to keep trying. I am in the same position right now. I love my husband more than anything in the world, but our marriage is far from perfect. We have been fighting a lot lately, everytime we have a good week with no fighting something will blow up at the end of the week. My husband doesn't seem to try hard to work it out. But I am just going to keep trying and trying until it either gets worked out or until he decides to not be together any more. I think if you truely love the person trying to save the marriage is all you can do. If it ends up not working out, at least you tried. It will be more than she did to try to save your marriage. Good luck.
2006-11-28 01:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Krisie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up trying..Good Luck to you, hope she starts putting forth effort to help save your marriage..
2006-11-28 01:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can picture the two of you apart and it not "bother" you as it should, then you are emotionally ready to seperate.
As long as you feel there is something worth fighting for, then don't give up. But you should make your feelings on this matter known to her in as non-confrontational way as possible.
People give up SO fast on marriages these days and it's very sad.
2006-11-28 01:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short, time to move on , the first cut is the deepest, If she is not putting forth any effort don't waste your time and your life !
2006-11-28 01:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by run_it_l8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe a trial seperation is the way to go. If she loves you, she is going to miss you. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. Does not mean you have to divorce, just give her space and you may need some to from this situation.
2006-11-28 01:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
repairing a wounded marriage should always be a twosome process. if the other refuses to do just that, saving marriages will be futile. its time to go when you are no longer happy and at peace with your partner, maybe just to give each of you space and to introspect what if parting ways is really what you want to do. by this, you have to consider your children. they are always the looser in this kind of situation.
2006-11-28 01:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you will know when you have reached a threshold of how willing you are to try and work it out. Have you suggested counselling for couples to her? Would she go? You might want to give that a shot first.
2006-11-28 01:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going to counseling, talk to each other. Marriage isn't always the easiest thing, but stick with it. There must be something worth staying together and fighting for.
2006-11-28 01:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Angela D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same boat. i think it takes two to make it work. one person can try like hell but if the other person puts forth zero effort then it wont last.
2006-11-28 01:04:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋