No more feminists. Please comment on this conclusion I've come to: Intelligence and a lack of beauty are correlated with bitterness in women, along with a myriad of more commonly known traits and histories, like abusive parents, bad luck with first boyfriend or two, and bad menses, which predict bitterness much more reliably.
Sure I'm stereotyping, so don't try to shame me for doing so. You stereotype just as much as I do. It's smart and healthy to do so.
The trouble is, I find intelligence in women very attractive and would soon grow bored of an unintelligent, beautiful woman.
I find that intelligence (both intellectual and emotional) often falls apart when otherwise intelligent women are discussing their needs with their man, especially if they're living together. What types of women are most likely to have this dead zone in their intelligence?
2006-11-28 00:26:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I'm not sure there's a particular "type" of woman who is like this. I think all people can be very stupid when it comes to anything involving a significant other.
I know LOTS of women who would not be considered beautiful but are very intelligent and not at all bitter. It sounds as though you often get women without a lot of confidence.
I would suggest that you look for a more confident woman. These women would (probably) have a better ability to communicate their needs, because they have a more concise idea of what they are.
Just my opinion but I hope it helps.
2006-11-28 02:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting notion that you are bringing up: lack of beauty and intelligence which leaves the implication that prescence of beauty doesn't correlate to intelligence? (I realize that I am perhaps overstepping that implication, but you did just leave it out in the open.)
What does that tell you, that women who are intelligent, in your experience, also tend to be lacking in beauty? Now, assuming that attraction comes first as one can *see* attraction whereas one can not *see* intelligence, doesn't that sound like it's a kind of overcompensation? Women who are not thought of being societally attractive then, in order to feel some sense of worth, must therefore be intelligent. Isn't that sh*tty? I don't expect it to be the same for men. There is certainly a standard of beauty, but is there the same pressure to fulfill it?
Now, honestly, I don't really see your issue here. You are making your own problem. You are refusing to budge on the feminist issue (although I think that if you didn't stereotype this one and perhaps did a bit more research into feminism, you'd find that it's not all man-hating, angry women but rather an alternative to patriarchal thought which not only puts pressure on women but puts just as much pressure on men and, as this society operates in dichotomies, what is the opposition to masculinity but feminity?) So, you want a smart and beautiful woman...but you don't want her to be *too* smart, or you want her to be a specific type of smart, right? But what kind of smart is that? College educated? An analytical mind? The quiet bombshell history major? And she probably can't be too beautiful either because that has the potential for her to be shallow or the attention from other men that she recieves could make you jealous.
Someone suggested this before, but it sounds like you want what you can't have. Some attractive women that I've known, if they were smart they were also kind of mean since everyone wanted t just get with them and not get to know them, or if they were beautiful (regardless of their intelligence) they had incredibly low self esteem since as a child they were treated as ONLY beautiful and regarded as worthy ONLY because of their looks, which means that their self worth came from only their looks and not their intelligence, or their great violining, or that they might have had a great personality...are you starting to see a trend here? You are asking for something which is a great rarity which is a rarity BECAUSE of the patriarchy (and perhaps because of the awful education system...although I am assuming that you are writing from the United States and if not, then any comments about education are void but nothing else really is.) I think that you are either going to have to budge on your intelligence standard or your beauty standard and, seriously now, which one is more likely to last over time?
2006-11-28 03:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by jr_crime_fighter 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not sure if you think women are asking too much of you or you just can't stand the pressure. Women and their emotions don't have a lot to do with intelligence. Better to know out front what they expect of you. If you don't want to know their needs...don't ask. Good luck
2006-11-28 00:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Grandma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you go on a journey to find that ellusive intelligent woman, you need to analyze your feelings on the subject. The problem seems to be more with your percenption of women than anything else.
I am guessing that your mother is very passive aggessive and emotionally draining. Is this the source of your dilemma?
2006-11-28 02:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
a change of perspective may be needed here. men, women….how does the opposite sex "look" for the "right" one? well, there are red flags in both cases:
RED FLAGS:
1) lifestyle - healthy or unhealthy?
2) addictions - to porn, gambling, drinking, drugging, shopping, etc…
3) character traits - empathy, sense of humor, ability to get along with others, etc…
4) attitude towards life
5) personality traits?
THESE ARE JUST A FEW…..
2015-08-08 20:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all do...it goes with the territory. Until they reach somewhere between 30 and 40 years of age. If you're looking for a woman younger than 30 without this "dead zone", as you put it, you're in for a rough ride. Oh yeah, there are SOME out there...but few and far between.
My advice is to look in another country where feminism hasn't had a long time to get a foothold on society.
2006-11-28 05:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by fishman 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Just a word of caution for women. This is the type of man to be wary of. He whines, is bitter about women and is much too hateful towards women.
No type of women could help a man like this. Even if you consider yourself "nice" by his standards, he'll always blame you for his own shortcomings.
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2006-11-28 05:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
the ones wearing Nascar T-shirts.
2006-11-28 20:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your expectations will exceed your actual experience.
2006-11-28 02:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do'nt need to worry much on characteristics, you should only know that no one is perfect. avoid vulgarity .
2006-11-28 00:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋