I'm married with a man with 2 girls 17 and 14. I'm having a lot of problems with the girls mom. What to do?

Question

She's always trying to get info from my life and always have a new story and blames the kids. Exemple when we told the girls I was pregnant she sent us an email saying that the 14 old one felt like we did not love her anymore. We spoke to the girl and she denied everything and actualy said that her mom is making up stuff. I confronted the mother that said thatmayb she did make it up. Thta's not the first time she does that.

Answer 1

just ignore it and don't talk to the kids about your business.

Answer 2

You should of anticpated this problem when you were dating this man at the time, I was in the same situation with my lst wife. We divorced, the children made up so much stories and my wife at the time ex husband really made trouble for me. Childrens Aid Services got involved and children were not coming home on the week-ends, there dad was keeping them. I loved my wife back then and I still do but, it was a finacial strain on me about her children and we ended. The children are older now and are asking questions why I didnt stay with there mom.......Now I am dating a women with no children and she does not want any!

Ex-wive will continue to cause problems and there is nothing you can do. I sorry its happening, but be patient and things will level out when the children get older and maybe the new child on the way will make a diffence. take Care, be careful.

Answer 3

I have always realize if you sit down with that person without any interference in a public place like starbucks or other upscale environment and voice your concern in a logical calm manner then she will stop the craving of attention that she is displaying. Furthermore, phrases like I need to have lunch just you and I to discuss the furture of our children (the girls); I am concerned of thier well being. Do not be confrontational or accusatory in your tone, turn the tables and become genuinely concerned about the future of the girls. Pull the man factor our of the equation and tell her I think we would be very good friends under other circumstances.
Good Luck

Answer 4

First of all, stop wasting your time confronting her with her ignorance. This is what she wants, it seems as though she is a very unhappy drama queen. And as long as you feed in to it she is getting exactly what she wants. Drama and more drama. If you are happy and the girls are happy and your husband is happy. Forget about her, leave her out of the equation, ignore her. Do not talk about her in front of the children and do not respond to her emails, phone calls etc. Let your husband deal with her. She will find someone else to victimize as soon as she realizes she is getting no where with you she will move on to cause drama somewhere else. She is obviously miserable and wants to make everyone else come to her level. Stop giving her the advantage by falling into her sick world. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 5

I know what you are going through. Unfortunately there is not much you can do, because she will say whatever, whenever! It only obvious that she is jealous! You need to sit down with the girls and tell them that you love them and nothing anyone says will change that....and keep it all between you guys and the girls. I wouldn't say anything real bad about their mother, but just explain what this is doing to you guys, maybe the girls will go back and tell their mother to back off. They are old enough to understand what is going on... Good Luck! I hope I helped!!

Answer 6

This is normal, You knew when you married him he had kids, until those girls both are over 18 this is going to happen. It seems if there is a ex there is problems. Share the least amount of information possible, and NEVER put the kids in the middle

Answer 7

First of all, if there's friction between you and the ex, your husband should be interacting with her ... not you. Try to avoid contact with her whenever possible. This may give the situation a chance to cool. Try to treat her with respect.

Take a deep breath and try to remain calm. It's not easy being an ex or the new wife ... been there/done that.

The girls should be your first priority in this situation.

Answer 8

I have the same problem, My husband's ex-wife is terrible. She loves to try to make our lives miserable,especially my husband's, but i don't let her. I just think that she's jealous of what we have and she's trying to ruin it. My husband and her have a 9 year old and when i got pregnant she would tell her that her daddy was not going to love her anymore because he was going to have another little girl. That's pathetic isn't it? Yeah i guess you just have to deal with it, it will never end. Just flaunt it and let the girls know that they have to respect you. no matter what, and it their mama doesn't like it then screw it. You live your life with your husband and don't worry what she has to say, because you know it's not true!!!! Remember, their mom is pathetic and instead of worrying about what she has to say, feel sorry for her, pity her, because she has yet to grow up!!

Answer 9

I don't get your story because it doesn't make any sense to me. Because you say that you are married with two children one is 17 and the other is 14. And then you say that you are having problem with the girl mom.

Answer 10

Block her e-mail and block her out of your life. Unless and until she has anything to discuss about the children she is a non-factor in your life.

Don't give her the free real estate in your head. She is just being petty and jealous because she hasn't found any measurable happiness in her own life.

Good Luck and congrats!

Answer 11

Be pleasant when you see/talk to the mom but otherwise ignore her efforts to undermine your relationship with your husband and stepdaughters. Taking the "high road" not only sets a good example for the kids but also will make her look stupid the longer she keeps it up.