I spend the holidays with a mixed group of family and friends. My best friend always invites her uncle. Initially, he is pleasant. But as the day passes, he becomes more and more intoxicated. At dinner recently, he surpassed his usual vulgarities and went straight to sexual innuendos. He told my nephew to shut his "F'n" mouth, and suggested that my husband 'teach me a lesson', whatever that means. I cannot take it anymore. I am not the only one who has met their limit in this area. I suggested that my friend tell him that these drunken tirades will not be tolerated. But she is afraid that he'll feel alienated. Christmas is around the corner, what do I do? I don’t want to be alienated, either.
2006-11-27 23:57:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he is there again, call him on it AS SOON as he gets there..something like...I hope you don't plan on getting drunk and acting like an *** again. If he DOES, leave. Plan and simple..remove YOURSELF from the situation..the only person you can control is you. Maybe your friend will see what a hindrance he is then. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 00:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the "ditty " that comes up before you answer a question is --- be the first to answer --- someone needs to be the first to stand up to this obnoxious uncle of yours --- and preferably a male .
what if he decides to relay these obscenities at Xmas ?? how will everyone feel then ??
this bloke needs to get a life and be rid of the chip off one shoulder , and the monkey off the other .
he's nothing but an obnoxious weed and you don't need this sort of disrespect --- good riddance to bad rubbish is my motto !!!
and Good luck --- god knows you'll need it .p.s if he can't handle his grog , he simply shouldn't drink the stuff --- but perhaps for a xmas present you could all give him the local AA number as a tiding of goodwill !
2006-11-28 08:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite him, if he starts to get into his usual intoxicated state put him in a cab and send him home with all your good wishes, this man does not have the right to ruin you holiday, except no excuses
2006-11-28 08:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to limit his alcohol if that doesn't work tell him straight out that his behavior is inappropiate especially this time of year. if nothing works ignore him.
2006-11-28 08:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend has to make a choice.
2006-11-28 08:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhh sounds like a classic Christmas.......tell him hes not invited unless he can control himself......
2006-11-28 09:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SERVE HIM ANY ALCOHOL, AND EXPLAIN TO HIM WHY. IF YOU DECIDE TO DO THAT, STICK TO YOUR GUNS. YOU WILL HAVE OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS TO BACK YOU UP. GOOD LUCK AND MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
2006-11-28 08:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by crane1951@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't serve any alcohol at you party. make it booze free. and chuck him out if he does become intoxicated
2006-11-28 08:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by gorjis gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you dont think it is a good idea if he comes if he can not control hisself
2006-11-28 08:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by yours truly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
video him when he acts this way... let him see it the next time u all get 2gether.... he will see how he acts.....
2006-11-28 08:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋