how can we control anger?

Answer 1

Relaxation:
Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.

Cognitive Restructuring:
Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself, "it's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow."

Problem Solving:
Sometimes, our anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced, and often it's a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. There is also a cultural belief that every problem has a solution, and it adds to our frustration to find out that this isn't always the case. The best attitude to bring to such a situation, then, is not to focus on finding the solution, but rather on how you handle and face the problem.

Better Communication:
Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

Using Humor:
"Silly humor" can help defuse rage in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like. If you're at work and you think of a coworker as a "dirtbag" or a "single-cell life form," for example, picture a large bag full of dirt (or an amoeba) sitting at your colleague's desk, talking on the phone, going to meetings. Do this whenever a name comes into your head about another person. If you can, draw a picture of what the actual thing might look like. This will take a lot of the edge off your fury; and humor can always be relied on to help unknot a tense situation.

Changing Your Environment:
Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap.

Answer 2

I think we need to find out what is the core of all your anger.
What is the main and primal thing that triggers all your anger.
Disappointment? Unfulfilled needs and desires? Unfulfilled expectations maybe? Traumatic past times? The stifling demands to be always perfect and spotless perhaps?
Anger could be surpassed. As long as we know the reason the core of what triggers our angers.

Answer 3

anger comes out of attachment
attachment comes out of desire to possess/control or obsession of something, and when this desire is not fulfilled man tends to become frustrated and out of this comes anger, so the best way to control anger is to be detached from all the materialistic things.

one's mind should be like the drop of water on a lotus leaf, Which though being on the leaf is still not attached to it.

Answer 4

it relies upon on the project i'm in for a large style of the time i'll administration my anger. yet there are those cases that i'm unable to regulate it and that is obtrusive that is controlling me. and that i have heard plenty that i choose anger administration because of those cases.

Answer 5

I control mine with Boxing, writing songs and playing my guitar with occassional screaming at the other drivers on the road for being retarded..

And when all those things don't work...Ativan helps alot!!

Answer 6

anger managment

Answer 7

find out what is making you angry and avoid it