Wether you admit it or not, people get replaced when they die. Widows remarry or get involved in other things. Is love really that shallow? Doesn't it go beyond death? If it does, then why is the marriage promise just "till death do us part?"
2006-11-27 23:13:41 · 4 answers · asked by hannah 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Don't be silly. No one ever gets "replaced." You never forget or stop loving the person, but you have to move on with your life. They're not being replaced. It's different. Someone I loved very much (but who was very troubled) passed away. I was devestated. I grieved for months. I still cry over him. I still think of him. I will always love him but that didn't stop me from meeting someone completely different & falling in love. That doesn't stop me from having a new relationship. If you spend your life in grief (which some people do) never getting over your loved one, you are just punishing yourself & can never bring your beloved back. Life is meant to be lived. There are beginnings & endings. It doesn't mean that you stop caring. Sometimes it is because you're so grief-stricken that you turn to someone for comfort & end up in another relationship. It doesn't mean you've stopped loving the departed. It just means that you need someone to be there for you when you feel so alone & in pain. There are many different kinds of love & we have a very great capacity for love. Loving someone new does not diminish the love you will always have for the one who is gone. Sometimes you may gravitate toward someone who reminds you of your departed loved one, because you miss them so much & it's tempting to feel like you have part of them back. But that doesn't mean they've been replaced. Or you may be drawn to someone who's the opposite of your former lover, again, this doesn't mean you're replacing them. It doesn't mean you've forgotten. You never ever forget.
Real love isn't shallow and yes it goes beyond death.
2006-11-27 23:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People remember those that die, they always hold a special place in your heart, but, no one that loves you would ask you to stay alone or mourn them for ever. You would be doing life and their memory a disservice if you didn't continue with your life, living it to the fullest and that means loving someone else. You're not replacing a mom or dad, or a wife or husband. That can't be done. You are continuing to live and that means sharing your love with someone else. Isn' that what they gave you, the ability to love? That's a great thing and it should be cherished and you do that by loving after they are gone.
Pining away and piting yourself the rest of your life isn't giving the person that died any honor. Mourn, cry, rage at the universe, then get back to life and love someone.
2006-11-27 23:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're speaking from experience, aren't you.
People are not "replaced." That's a misnomer. But life continues.
Do you expect someone who has experienced the death of a loved one to continue to live under a shadow of loss and never continue living? Do you really think the loved one who dies WANTS those still alive to stop living simply to mourn him/her? Of course not.
2006-11-28 01:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on, yo cannot dwell in the past. You do not stop feeling when someone dies, you just know that person is not there anymore but will always be a part of you. Life is here, now. When you are six feet underground, do you think it will matter?
2006-11-27 23:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by nv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋