How many of you would punish ur 15 year old son with the belt and 2 weeks grounding and banning from computer and tv for this?
2006-11-27 23:06:45 · 14 answers · asked by L R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
haha lying? how about the fact that grading children is wrong, wrong, wrong. children should not be 'graded.' it makes them feel inadequate, which is why they changed the damn grades in the first place!
talk to your son about how grades mean nothing and he doesnt have to change them.
2006-11-27 23:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I know where your coming from I have a 13 year old son. I think the belt is a little harsh and he's too old for spankings. I would ground him and take the computer and tv away. If he is over all a good kid, he'll probably learn his lesson from this punishment. I think it's just a thing kids do to see if they can get away with it. I remember doing the exact same thing when i was in school. Did he fess up and say he changed it or is he denying it? If it happens again then try taking more away from him or grounding him longer..Good luck!
2006-11-27 23:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by debbie r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's lying but why does he see the need to change the grade? Is he ashamed of his genuine achievement or frightened he will get into trouble for a poor grade?
I disagree with the belt; ban TV & Computer if this is interfering with homework.
If a child has done the very best that they are capable of, then accept the grade and reward the effort. Not everyone's a genius but everyone has a gift and it's not necessarily an academic one. It may be relating well to others, music, language, humour. Concentrate on the positive and ignore the negative as much as possible.
2006-11-27 23:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by SANDY T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do consider this lying and I would punish if it were my child but, I wouldn't use the belt or any type of physical punishment. My son got 3 f's on his report card and after I found out that it was because he wasn't doing the work he got grounded for two weeks and had to study for an hour straight right after school . I did talk to his teacher and found out that he is having real trouble with the math and that he needed to be tested to see if he needed a special class to help him out in his math and science. He already has help in his reading so . maybe you should talk to his teacher and see what was causing the low or lower grade that he was afraid to tell you about? Hope all goes well but remember that these days when you spank a child comes consequences. All your son has to do is tell one teacher or adult what he got hit with and you'll have child protective service calling you. So be careful. Good luck to you.
2006-11-27 23:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see that as not only lying.. but cheating, and stealing as well. Changing grades is never the answer.
I would not punish with a belt, the punishment has to fit the crime, and since he's not doing well in school, his punishment should be having everything he likes taken away, and a strict schedule of studying and homework in his spare time until he improves.
My 14 year old daughter did that last year.. and her punishment was that when she came home from school ( no activities or seeing friends) she had to start on her homework. I talked to her teachers about her problems in class and I made them send me her assignments every day so that I would know what had to be done. And I made sure she did it.
2006-11-27 23:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually just give my parents my bad report card and promise to do better next time. Actually taking the time to change the grade on the paper is too much of a headache. If you son did a great job on changing the grade that it doesn't look like it was changed at all give them props for it but let them know not to do it again. Bannishment from the computer and tv and his fav. things is punishment enough.
2006-11-28 07:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by nicoleband0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never punish with a belt, but I would certainly limit how free time could be used till those grades came up. I'd try to find out the real reasons why the work is not getting done too, in case there is something he needs help with.
2006-11-27 23:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's a lie. The belt I don't agree with at all. The grounding and computer banning is ok too. But not the tv. I wouldn'd make it two weeks myself maybe one week though.
2006-11-27 23:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu are only cheating yourself. Think in about getting a job later on. It's the difference between an o.k. job and a great job. Do your hard work now. I agree, but not with the BELT! That's abusive! Naughty to Mom and Dad!
2006-11-27 23:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no belt that solves nothing.ask your
self why is this child feel that he has to change his bad grades is he afraid.is he that afraid to bring them home.maybe he is having trouble in school.my daughter never changed her grades but i know she needed extra help in school and never got it.with a 15 yr old you should have a sit down talk.when you do something wrong do you get the belt? that is child abuse you can go to jail for that or have him taking a way.
2006-11-27 23:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spare the rod and spoil the child, this does not work for most . Our world is getting out of control and one of the reasons that I can see is the way the young people of today lie and cheat there way through anything they can and who cares about any body else. our parents are supose to care about our futures and so should you young people. take the time for doing the crime. P.s what are you doing on the computer get off get to your room and get back to your home work.No silver platers here
2006-11-27 23:11:10 · answer #11 · answered by status quo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋