I would rather quote the second comandment given by Christ " LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF" This the real formula for a happy married life.If you love your spouse as your self you both will always be happily married.
2006-11-28 16:11:01
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answered by bisexualmale s 6
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Choose right; be consequent; communicate genuinely; Dont let hurt you, try to really understand your man; humor; dont take yourself not too serious; take regard, take it easy, enjoy good times; think positive; the higer the claims the harder to please; Set priority.
But I have to mention:
- There is no formula
- There is no guarantee
Choose right
Important: You can give a lot of advices during the relationship. But if the choose is wrong you can often forget it right from the start. Thats why I decided to write more about this here:
Dont just choose what you like, choose what fits to you too.
There are so much people who choose bad. Listen to wrong signs for example only superfical signs. Much people dont listen right (Behind the lines). Im not suprised. Cause Love makes blind. Try make the right choice as long you can see.
Its absolutely suprising how unskilful in choosing the right fellow certain girls or men are. They choose superficial. A good choice often isnt the choice which seems to be. Its unbelievable. Some girls prefere guys simulating than telling the truth which hurts but helps developing or learning from faults.
Be consequent
You have to set priority in life. You cant have one and the another. You have o know what you want and communicate this straight. People let them hurting. Other people just do the things to you you let them doing. Many of them would be well advised to be more consequent. If once your man realize that he can have you no matter he will do its too late.
Dont expect changes your partner but respect him. He will not change. Be just happy if he will. You can adapt but changing other characters is difficult.
2006-11-27 23:09:49
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answered by happy_blabla 2
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The formula for a happy married life is to give a man his
space and find your own things to do. Don't be a diaper
on his butt and always full of s**t.
2006-11-28 03:19:59
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answered by Van T 5
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Love, love is what will help get you both through the rough spots and there will be many. Trust, trust helps open communication and love blossom. Friendship, friendship will help your relationships foundation to be strong. Respect, respect will keep your communication honest and kind. Without respect for one another you can be angry and ugly with the one person whom you should love more than life. Hugs and Kisses every chance you get. Say "I love you" constantly - you never know when it will be the last. Apologize when you are wrong. Be strong and don't give up Marriage is worth fighting for because True LOVE only comes once in a lifetime!!!
2006-11-27 23:27:38
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answered by HereweGO 5
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You have to work hard for it. It does not come in a silver platter. There will be a little rain and sunshine. ( problems and happiness) but always having a positive attitude will help a lot in turning the problems into happiness. A correct frame of mind is vital for a successful marriage. Love is like a plant that should also be nurtured and taken cared of. Let your love for each other grow by understanding , concern and thoughtfulness. Do not allow the sun to set, without you settling your differences, if any. Do something sweet as often as you can. Vary your activities and love making. Learn how to make love in various ways. Seek not to be understood as to understand. Support him in his endeavours. Listen to what he says. ( for women) Never, never nag, in any given situation. (men really hate this foremost). Love, love and still love.
2006-11-27 22:46:33
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answered by ? 7
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All long-term relationships go through a variety of phases. There is the initial dating and courtship and infatuation period. If the relationship continues, it settles into a more stable time of building a history as a married couple.
If children enter the picture, that is a new phase. Later, there is another phase of being together as a mature couple with the wisdom of experience.
We all know that it is possible to keep passion, romance, excitement and sexual intensity alive through the years, but we also know that many relationships settle into a kind of friendly (or not so friendly) roommate situation. Every relationship has it’s ups and downs, but there are tools that can keep passion perking right along. Here are 10 of them:
1. Be kind - I’m writing this sitting at the airport and it’s fascinating to watch people grouch at their spouses, then turn around and share a friendly smile with a stranger. We tend to take family and best friends for granted. A smile, a wink, just a moment of kindness goes a long way.
2. Be attentive - Paying attention to the details of life is important. Pick up your own trash, and pick up for each other. Put things away, help each other with the small projects around the house. These things are the currency of love.
3. Be gracious - Small surprises can create huge rewards in a relationship. Taking a moment to put on a clean shirt before dinner, or using the good china, or cutting a flower from the garden and putting it on the table, are examples. All these things add color, spice, and graciousness to our lives.
4. Be patient - We all have bad days. It happens. When it happens to your spouse, be smart! Take the kids to the park for an hour, order Chinese take-out for dinner. Give him/her a break! This is the reality of life. Allow for it.
5. Be honest - Tell the truth about your feelings, and do it promptly and in a respectful, effective way. Share your disappointments and fears, but also share dreams, hopes, and gratitude's. Keeping secrets kills passion.
6. Be funny - Life seems to have supply its own stress and worry, but we have to provide the humor on our own. Share a joke, take time to tickle each other or rent a funny movie, and do it often. The couple that laughs together, often does other fun stuff together, too!
7. Be flexible - Over a lifetime, people change. Hopefully, your relationship will change and grow and mature with as you change. One of you will change careers, One will have an illness, the other will make a mistake. Relationships have to bend and flex with the winds of life.
8. Be generous - "give little gifts". Surprise each other with flowers, candy, a card, or other gift. Do it often. Do it for no particular reason. Do it because you love each other and thought it would be nice to show it with a gift.
9. Be available - "take time for each other". Schedule time to walk and talk, go for drives in the country, go to dinner and see a movie together. Dozens of couples ranked time together as the most critical component in keeping romance and passion alive.
10. Be physical - This is about sensuality perhaps more than sexuality. Couples talke about the importance of scents, of candles and flowers and walks on the beach. They talk about making love, but mostly they talk about back rubs and holding hands, and creating memories. They talk about getting dressed up and going out, and they talk about being playful and finding their own way. You can do this!
Someone has said, "Life is what happens while you were making other plans." Romance is about real life, not about dreams and fantasies of the perfect partner, someday on a Pacific island. Romance and passion are about taking time to enjoy the company of the person you love. Have fun. Do it today!
Good Luck>r
2006-11-28 23:57:00
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answered by Rahul 6
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There is really not so called formula... Marriage is what you make of it.... Unconditional love and commitment are at the top of the list... Forgiveness and loving each other where they are at is great too and for goodness sake dont forget to communicate well with each other.... Divorce should never be in the marriage dictionary and if you have problems counseling is the key! Treating each other how you would want to be treated is important too. So many people become unhappy and dont work on their marriage and divorce way to early when things can be worked on and improved on in the marriage..... Very sad indeed.
2006-11-27 22:23:05
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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Just trust in your Partner.
Respect her/His Feelings
Try a long Foreply before having Sex
Give the Climex Point to your Partner.
Healthy Sex Life is most Important for a Happy Marriage.
If you are not satisfy with your Partner.. Plz discuss about it very Frankly.
2006-11-29 03:06:15
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answered by burmudavaishu 1
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Respect and understanding are very important, if the couple lose the respect for each other then the marriage cannot go on, couples have to understand each other, and stand by each other all the time, and the most important thing is having the will to go on, and having the will to work things out and try to beat any problems that might come their way
2006-11-27 22:16:30
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answered by Anonymous
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Honey, there is no formula for living a happy married life, if someone tell u that he knows then he is making u fool. In actual, marriage is a social bonding of two person in which they mutually and in all respects agreed to give respect to each other, understand each other, suggest & support, and ready to develop a new family. It is not a time bound period if you feels and think so. There are lots of circumstances in your life when both of you feel shattered, and these are the times when love meter check your relationship. If you thinks to get married, you cannot think yourself to be isolated from the society for only your own happiness. Happy life is not having sex with your partner or to go out for dinner. Childrens comes in your life with the smiles on every face, especially u and ur partner which u never c's and feeling, u never feels. Joys & sorrow's and situation comes in your life which nobody can predict when they comes but you have to face it together and this is in right terms a Practical Happy Married Life. Friend usually I dont give suggestion to anyone, but I am giving you, I dont know why. Anyways Dont mind if you feels something wrong, bye the way, I am living in chandigarh.
Gum bhi hai, Khushiya bhi hai hazaar, Gum bhi hai Khuhsiya bhi hai hazaar, Hanse hai hum hor Roye bhi hai kai baar, Mere dost Shukriya kar us khuda ka, Jisne banaya tujhe Pura insaan, karo to Sirf Mohabaat, Ladne mai kar Na Dena ye Zindagi Bekaar.
2006-11-28 01:01:25
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answered by Jugal 1
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I believe the best formula is LOVE and plenty of it. Honesty and trust also communication is a must. Mutual respect, a willingness to accept we all make mistakes and forgive each other. Helping one another. A cuddle when down or upset. Just loving one another faults and all.
2006-11-27 22:30:15
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answered by kazzadanni 4
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