Basically i am wondering if everything will be ok if i continue pregnancy? before we knew i was pregnant, and long before i even was, we were going out all the time and i was drinking an awful lot. when i knew i stopped except for a glass of wine every other night. however, after seriously thinking i was having an abortion i happened to go out with some friends and i got drunk. but now i am having second thoughts about the abortion but was wondering how much if any damage has happened?
2006-11-27 21:57:21 · 19 answers · asked by beeki13 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Basically i am wondering if everything will be ok if i continue pregnancy? before we knew i was pregnant, and long before i even was, we were going out all the time and i was drinking about five drinks a night. when i knew i stopped except for a glass of wine every other night. however, after seriously thinking i was having an abortion i happened to go out with some friends and i got drunk. but now i am having second thoughts about the abortion but was wondering how much if any damage has happened?
my fiance and i are concerned that we are not financially ready for this commitment and will not be able to provide well, hence the thoughts of abortion. this was an unplanned pregnancy. we used all necessary precautions but they malfunctioned. we were not being reckless or thinking it wouldn't happen to us. we tried to protect ourselves from becoming pregnant, the methods just didnt work. before you even start being rude consider the fact that i know who the father is and i am marrying him.
2006-11-27 22:27:52 · update #1
my fiance and i are concerned that we are not financially ready for this commitment and will not be able to provide well, hence the thoughts of abortion. this was an unplanned pregnancy. we used all necessary precautions but they malfunctioned. we were not being reckless or thinking it wouldn't happen to us. we tried to protect ourselves from becoming pregnant, the methods just didnt work. before you even start being rude consider the fact that i know who the father is and i am marrying him.
2006-11-27 22:28:37 · update #2
You don't kill a baby because it 'might' have a potential problem.
2006-11-27 22:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I urge you to talk with an OBGYN about this situation, they only will have all the answers. I do not like the thought of abortion but I’m not going to argue with you about your decision, you do legally have that option and that’s exactly what it is for you an option. Drinking while pregnant can have serious repercussions, even if you only drank a few alcoholic beverages in one night and that was it the entire time of your pregnancy! In fact when you drink, and this is a fact, your baby's blood alcohol level is higher than yours would currently be which leads to a fast threat of a miscarriage. One night of drinking can leading to many mental and physical defects talk to your doctor, there is no way to know of any mental defects before birth but physical defections are most always detectable, but please don't base your decision on that. Many people with birth defects live full and very healthy lives. I listed a few sites for you to look at. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-11-27 22:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question here is not whether to stop drinking, or even whether your child will be born "less than perfect", but if you really want this child. If you hadn't drunk heavily for those two months would you want the baby? Or is the fact that you have been drinking a convenient excuse for the fact that you don't want the baby and are considering getting rid of it as some kind of pathetic attempt at "doing the right thing".
Be honest with yourself. If you truly want a child you will love and care for it with all your heart, irrespective of how perfect/normal/imperfect it is. Only you know the answer to how much you want this child, drink or no drink.
2006-11-27 22:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by JoKnowsThisOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, now this is the deal. We all know that drinking when you are pregnant is a bad thing to do. We also know that smoking is a bad thing to do when you are pregnant. The answer is NOT to kill your baby because you made a poor decision. The answer is to promise yourself that you will never do that again. This time make that commitment and stick to it! Do not let yourself be tempted to drink because you know that it is NOT good for your baby. If you stop drinking right now the odds are way in your favor that your baby will NOT suffer from fetal alchohol syndrome.
Have you been to see an OB/GYN? If you have not please do so right away. Talk to her about the couple of stupid times that you have exercised poor judgement and I am sure that she will agree with me that you should not get rid of your baby just because it seems like the easy thing to do right now. Please believe me it is the worst thing that you could do and the ramifications of a decision like that will haunt you for the rest of of your life.
Do the right thing, go see a doctor, start taking your pre-natal -vitamins and be the mother that your dear little baby deserves. Take care of yourself and get lots of rest, eat right and do what your doctor tells you to do.
If however, you know in your heart that you can not and will not be a good mother to this little one, finish what you started and put this little baby up for adoption. Your mistake will be another woman's miracle. Adoption is the loving, selfless things to do. I firmly believe that there is a special place in heaven for women who are strong enough to make this beautiful decision.
Please make the right decision. Try to think of the tiny little life that you have created.
Feel free to write to me anytime, I will write back.
Love and Blessings
2006-11-27 22:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, having a baby is a gift from God. I would suggest you go to a doctor to check whether there is any damage to the fetus.I am 24, married 3 years ago and financially still not really but still I am 9 week pregnant. There is still 7 month to improve my situation. Pls don't feel bad but going out often would mean spending money.Think carefully about it. By the time you are financially really you might not fall pregnant
2006-11-27 22:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by havillah k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do not abort. It is not your baby's fault he/she was conceived and it's not his/her fault that your relationship is rocky with the dad. You need to protect the helpless, not kill it. Single mothers are common today than in the past and there is much out there to help single mothers. You could even give the child for adoption, which is hard to do, but far better than ending his or her life. Second, don't marry this man. I believe a child benefits most from a mother and father present and committed to one another. With that being said, I'm 99% sure that dad will not stay present in yours and your child's life and stay committed to you. Your child deserves a father. Not a man that shares DNA and is called dad. You child needs a father figure. You do not want to get caught up in a relationship like this, they usually don't end well. Find a loving, committed husband for you and your child. Even if you can't find that, it is better to be single. Don't marry him. Ever.
2016-05-22 21:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That very same thing happened to me....The baby came out fine, there was no damage done....You see it takes one month before your even aware youre pregnant, so how are you suppost to know to stop doing what ever it is thats bad....If you are thinking of keeping the baby be rest assured everything will be ok, as long as you are not continuing to drink any more...
Good luck with it, I hope all works out well for you, motherhood is one of the most amasing stages of a womans life, enjoy it....
2006-11-27 22:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have chosen to marry this man that says it all you must really love him so why would you want to give up on this baby? i had my first child at 16 he is now 8 and i never thought of an abortion until i turned 23 got drunk one night and slept with the fella i was going out with for only a week. i got pregnant told him i wanted to keep the baby but he was having none of it he told me we would have to be married that was just to quick for me so i had an abortion. i cant find any excuse to doing it expect i just did int want this baby any more. i would have hated it, sad but true now i have to live with it for the rest of my life and trust me i thought it wouldn't have effected me but it did when i found out my sister was having her second baby it really gutted me the fact i could of had my second child but i have done it once and would never go through with that again its not the operation that's hard its the aftermath i don't think about it much because i don't see that fella any more but for you to marry him would be a bigger problem you will probely grow to hate him and your marriage might-in work so you will lose your marriage the love of your life and a baby. to say a child cost money yea it does but abortion cost a lot more heartbreak.
2006-11-29 05:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by donna m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you stop now,everything should be fine.My friend drank the first 2 months during her pregnancy but she had no idea she was pregnant.She has a healthy baby boy.I'm sure this has happened to other people and the baby been fine
2006-11-27 22:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by shiloh jolie-pitt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a doctor however, i feel the baby will be okay. stop all drinking so the baby don't have alcohol syndrome. abortion is wrong just because you think something could be wrong with it. if you do this something is wrong with you. its called murder. so do some soul searching dear and do the right thing.
2006-11-27 22:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are an alcoholic and used the thought of abortion as en excuse to drink. Having a child is a lot of responsibility and you have a month to really think about it. Sober!!!
2006-11-27 22:01:04 · answer #11 · answered by alegna_2004 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋