What should i do
2006-11-27 21:56:11 · 33 answers · asked by colin050659 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
All you can do is support her.
2006-11-27 21:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dazman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the age gap is irrelevant at the moment - would you feel better if the bloke was 23? Would your views on her pregnancy change? The issue is that she is pregnant and whether she feels that this man is going to support her - at 43 he might be a more responsible provider than a younger lad, he may be more ready to make a proper commitment to her. She has her reasons why this has happened and you should encourage her to talk with you so you can understand. It is for you to understand her, not the other way around.
But, whatever she ultimately decides to do, remember that it is her decision.
Good luck
2006-11-27 22:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the BEST thing in the world that you can do for your daughter is being there for her. She is probably scared to death and needs someone to help her. The last thing she needs in the world is for her parent to soon become her enemy. When parents go to tell us stuff, sometimes they push too hard on the subject of us making a big mistake(I wouldn't use the word mistake when talking to her because afterall it is still her child and your grandchild, it would hurt her feelings too, when you say what she did was a "mistake", try accident?), even though are parents give us "the talk" parents sometimes forget that we have already given ourselves that same talk to. About how could I let this happen? Why didn't I use protection? I should have just waited till marriage...etc. So just remember that. Be her parent and her friend. She needs you too.
2006-11-28 01:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes 19 which technically means she's an adult although in your mind she's still a little girl.
I agree with waht you're probably thinking, this is not an ideal situation by far nad not something you ever wanted for your little girl.
However, unfortuantley its happened and there is nothing you can do about it. If you express your disapointment and anger to your daughter this will do nothing but drive a wedge between you both. Just support her decision (whatever that might be) and be there for her as best you can.
2006-11-27 22:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a lot you can do I'm afraid but support her. My daughter is 22 and engaged to a 43 year old. If you try and lay down the law to her she will only want to be with him more.
Be there for her and help her to make the best decision for her future, and be there to help her with the baby if she needs it.
2006-11-27 22:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dogs'r'us 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If they are in a relationship then what difference does it make? Even if they're not in a proper relationship, the man's age doesn't make a blind bit of difference to your daughters situation. Would you be happy if she was pregnant to a 23 year old? What's the difference!!
2006-11-27 22:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can support her and care and love her and give her all the advise you can. The only problem is if she decides to take that advice, support etc. I dont have to tell you she is an adult by law, and will figure that out for herself. Hope everything works out all right. At the end of the day there is nothing you can do except catch the pieces if it all goes wrong and be proud if it all works out to be fantastic.
2006-11-27 22:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by rgrahamh2o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she is of legal age please don't cast her off. support her emotionally and see to it he supports her financially. even if you have to dig in your pocket. ask that all funds you use be reimbursed to your daughter so she can pay it back. i never encourage abortion. fact is it was consensual. I'm sorry but this often happens. is he responsible and is she mature for her age? i know of a couple the same age and they were together 8 years and one day she up and left. now she is 28 and with a man 32 more her age. sad to say i feel very sorry for the man he is not taking it well. he did love her as we are all aware of coarse this was my daughter.
2006-11-27 22:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they love each other?
I had a long relationship with a girl 20 years younger then me. At first her family was dead against it - but, in the end, they realised that she was happy, being looked after and in a nice house. That's when we started being invited to famaily get togethers. My partners father said the he wished that he hadn't taken so long over changing his mind.
Age is a number - remember that she is likely to be with somone that is more financially secure.
2006-11-27 22:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by viking_raider_2005 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is legally an adult. I can't comment on the situation as all you have said is that she is pregnant. Is she happy? Is she in a stable relationship? If you love your daughter you will be behind her in whatever happens.
2006-11-27 21:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations you're going to be a Grandparent!!!!! Is she happy about the pregnancy? Be happy with her and celebrate. If she's got her doubts support her. The arrival of any baby should be a joyous event.
Sorry what's the relevance of the ages?
2006-11-27 22:05:20 · answer #11 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋