I Have gut feeling but dont know how to go about it ive asked but he gets mad and tells me that he doesnt. If not then why do i have a gut feeling some times
2006-11-27 21:52:25 · 22 answers · asked by sweet_angel180 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well his father did it. Hes mother left when he was a baby so no real female in the picture. We used to live in apartment and there was this girl b4 we got together there he said nothing happened but she turned out doing every guy insight there ive seen all the guys shes just a whore any ways she moved in with us after we were married she lived with us for about 2 months i feel like he did something with her he said that he would never have sex with that nasty girl but i feel weird like hes lying but i cant prove it What questions can i ask if he did its really hurting our marrige
2006-11-27 22:01:51 · update #1
Why don't you contact that TV show Cheaters and have them spy on your hubby.
2006-11-27 21:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to stop this. I repeat , you need to stop this. You are not telling us what is going on now. You seem to be dwelling on the past. Whether there was anything going on in the past does not matter today. He told you nothing happened. The person you suspect is not in the picture. What are you doing. That you continue trying to ferret out information based on a "gut feeling" lends me to believe that you cannot handle it if he said yes. Its obvious that this is eating you up but its in your head not something he has done. Put a stop to this . Get some therapy if you must but deal with your lack of trust. Of course he gets mad. How often do you accuse him of cheating ?
If you persist, he will become tired of being blamed for something he did not do and go do what he is getting blamed for. Please deal with your own issues and leave him alone before you drive him away.
Presumably, the traits that drew you to him were the ones that compelled him to help out the girl you refer to as a whore. And yet you seem to subscribe some ill intent to his actions. You also bring his family into this mix. What does this have to do with him. Do you suppose his father's cheating was the only reason which contributed to his mother abandoning her child? Sorry it does not work like that. You are so close to destroying your marriage here and the usual Yahoo, " all men are cheaters" crowd is more than willing to pile on. I do not know if he is or is
not cheating but I see some serious self esteem issues at work here. All the things you mention indicate that you do not trust him because you don't believe a man can be faithful to you. Please get some individual therapy and take care of yourself first. Leave him out of this until you figure your own motivation out. Think about this, his mother abandoned him, and his wife accuses him of infidelity. What can be his subconscious view of women.
2006-11-28 07:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Reminds me of an Oprah show I saw years ago on cheating spouses. They had a couple of private investigators on, telling people how to spot a cheater. I found it very interesting that they said in I think it was 15 years of doing this, they had NEVER been hired by a wife and discovered that the husband was NOT cheating.
They said that when men hire them, the women are sometimes not cheating, but they had never had a woman suspect and be wrong about it. The guy said something to the effect that if a wife suspects he's cheating, in his experience - she's right.
2006-11-28 06:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think that he's cheating then more than likely he's doing so. Does he take showers as soon as he comes in? What do his clothes smell like? What are the hours he's walking through the door? Does he have a problem with you touching him? If he's cheating then he will not tell you and is getting made because you're on to him. If he's not cheating then you just have to believe him and he's getting mad because you don't trust him. You can ask God to give you a sign that he is. Always remember that actions speak louder than words.
2006-11-28 06:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by tonja20770 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask him questions. Just look at his behavior before and now.
Why would he let this "nasty girl" move in with himself and his wife if he was not interested in getting a piece on the side?
If you want to do the GPS thing go ahead. However, you don't need rocket science to figure out he is probably cheating on you. Asking a direct question will get you a no answer every time.
Save your money for a lawyer and maybe call Cheaters. They will investigate him for free. Good luck.
2006-11-28 06:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's really only one option. Ask him outright. If he denies it and you don't believe him, then the trust has gone, and you have no relationship anyway. If things have got to this stage of doubt and suspicion things can't be very healthy in your marriage.
If there is no trust, there is no marriage. Sneak around digging up stuff at your peril, but it will all end badly, no matter what you uncover. Either you find out he has been cheating and it's over, or he finds out you've been snooping, and it's over. Be careful.
2006-11-28 06:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by helly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look us woman sometimes have this gut feeling and we got to pay attention to it .Do some snooping around like his cell phone his pockets receipts etc.. I know that if you cant trust someone you shouldn't be with them and snooping is invading someones privacy but you got to find out rather then be the last one to know which usually happens.Usually men slip up when they cheat so if you feel like he is doing something or being with someone then look into it don't put a blindfold in hope's it goes away cause in the long run it will only make you hurt.
2006-11-28 06:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
beside the fact that you have this gut feeling. it has to tell you something because he gets mad about it when you ask him, is a real good indicator that he is.if a man loves a girl and she feels that he is cheating and he really is not. they will talk to the girl to reassure her that he loves her and that nothing is going on.not get mad. he gets mad because he has something to hide.beside there really is not much you can ask him that he wont be able to deny. so you have to go with what your gut tells you and how he acts with you.if he seems a little off, then you have your answer.
2006-11-28 05:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask.. they never admit it, unless you catch them in the act. You should not have told him you suspected him, now he will just be more sneaky. Let him think you believe him. Keep track of his goings, money and putting a GPS in his car is the best idea. Hire a detective if you suspect a specific meeting with her. Knowing is so much better than not knowing.
2006-11-28 05:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sure have a lot of winners here Honey, you can't lose with them on your side, in fact your headed for the divorce court. Is this what you want?
Then listen. Ask him, then tell him your going to a consular and you want him to go with. If he refuses tell him that's not an option.It's that or an attorney and explain why, it'll give him a chance.
Then if he refuses, it's your choice. Good luck. And, it's your idea.
2006-11-28 06:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't want to sound cruel but if you have a gut feeling then you are probably right. Women usually feel these things even if they don't have any proves. Go with your gut feeling. Mine has never failed me.
2006-11-28 05:58:07 · answer #11 · answered by Smelly Cat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋