I loved my ex she hurt me when she left, she then returned I took her back but hurt her to get her back for hurting me, It was great but it was not meant to be and I know that. But I cant stop thinking of her even thow shes not good for me. it may be the great sex we had or because she was my first love. my new wife is the best and she loves me to death, i find it hard to return the love. what should I do?
2006-11-27 21:40:44 · 17 answers · asked by sam k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to live the baggage behind... you cant move on if dont live it behind..i think waht you felt about your ex wife is not really true love because true love..it sees and examined true love is not completely controlled by feelings its more on principle..that is why god put the brain above to our heart because we have to control our feelings..dont let your emotion empower you...learn to love your wife as she loves you...if you failed for the first time dont let it happened the second time around...give your best to make yor marriage succesful..
2006-11-27 22:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by kirsten 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray to God. You need to understand your marriage vows. What would you do if you lost your current wife? If your ex-wife is no good for you, why would you not know what to do? Do you like being hurt?
You need to search for the comfort of you wife and love her. You need to understand the responsibility of being a husband and act accordingly. Why did you marry your current wife if you don't know how to return the love? You seem to be a selfish person.
I think you should thank God for bringing someone into your life again and not take her for granted. Perhaps you do not know how to love at all. God can show you the way. Otherwise you will really be lost. Your ex-wife was a cheater and you thought that cheating was the answer. It's not! Do something before you are alone, divorced twice and no one to love you.
2006-11-27 21:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by LAHotPeppers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not on my own many individuals consider of their ex at one time or the other but that don't make them cut-and-run. Are attempting your satisfactory, I imply in a quality manner possible to have a loving relationship with your spouse, see if there's a hope. Clear your judgment of right and wrong that you simply tried your quality. In case your spouse loves you and you each have no very critical disorders, stay together with her. It is feasible you could regret it going back to your ex too, what will you do then? There ought to have been some thing that you simply married her, bear in mind that and be a person of your word. Discontinue eager about your ex at all times. Could also be it is simply the thoughts which can be constantly pleasant than fact. Excellent success with attempting.
2016-08-09 23:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by vanburen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you remember something that happened three years ago, no matter if it's a relationship or a good time you had with friends, something called idealization occurs. One tends to remember the best things that happened and overexaggerate them as we recall them. It is perfectly human and it happens to literally EVERYONE. Now you have to ask yourself if it is really your long gone memories that keep you from focusing on your new relationship or simply the fact that you might be overwhelmed by how much your wife loves you and you simply do not feel the same way.
2006-11-27 21:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sam, but you should grow up and wise up. If you love your second wife so much, how can you even think of having your cheating first partner back ,unless you enjoy being hurt, or perhaps you don't feel you deserve to be treated well? You are quits now, be grateful you've found a lovely lady and don't mess it up. Good luck
2006-11-27 21:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by spamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like you never forget the dead ones similarly it is very hard to forget the ex lovers but past is past and one has to live with the future and hence keep this feeling deeply burried inside and live as a new leaf happliy with your spouse otherwise both your lives would be miserable.
2006-11-27 21:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let it go stop living in the past and look wants in front of you. You have someone that loves you and if you don't foget the frist one you have a chance to lose the secend one too. Time goes on and so does life, make new memorries.
2006-11-27 21:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not being fair to your wife.Think about who you truly want and make a decision.you can't play your wife like that,she deserves someone who is going to return the love.It won't take long before she'll pick up that something(or someone...)is on your mind.Women have an intuition with stuff like that
2006-11-27 21:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by shiloh jolie-pitt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sam well I'm sadden to hear that you would put your new wife in this situation it seems to me that you tried to use her to forget the ex.Be a man and know that you need to move on and give your new wife the opportunity to make you happy
2006-11-27 21:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation. I wrote a list of the REALITY of my relationship with my ex.. put it in writing all the time he hurt me or I hurt him.. This way it made it clear that we were'nt meant to be together. It also helped me to quit the FANTASY around my memories of him.
2006-11-27 21:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋