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Serious answers only. I blame myself for my friend Peters' death. I feel i killed him. what should i do?

2006-11-27 21:20:29 · 42 answers · asked by Chris C 3 in Family & Relationships Friends

42 answers

Chris, ye bast! I'm back from the dead!

2006-11-27 21:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 3

Yes more details would be good but in answering your question "should you confess" This all depends on what it is exactly you have done??? If you Physically did something to him which killed him, like stabbing him or poisioning etc then yes confess. Any physical which you could of done to him to cause his death id confess. Otherwise you will only live with this for the rest of your life. It is obvisiously playing on your mind and you feel some kind of guilt and regret so do the right thing.

If however, it is only something emotional. For we dont know if your talking about suiside? You could be, Dont let yourself feel guilty. Ive been down this road b4. If your blaming yourself for something you didnt do for him, or something you fell you could of done more but didnt ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. If he did take his own life, then it doesnt matter what you did or how much you could of done, at the end of it he saw it as his only way out. There is nothing and i mean NOTHING you could of done to prevent this. Its hard to believe i know (if this is the case) but i blamed myself for my best friends death years ago. She took her life, even though we talked for hours everyday about her problems. I tried to help her in everyway i knew how and in the end I had to put my foot down and say "sorry but no". (Hers was drugs related).

If this is your case then you have nothing to confess about but you should really talk to someone you can trust. You need to get your feelings out in the open whatever your circumstances are as this is obvisiously playing on your mind. It will do you more HARM (mentally, physically and emotionally) in the long run if you dont talk about it.

Good luck

2006-11-27 22:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0 0

First of all, don't let it drive you crazy. Share your problem with those closest to you for support. You then need to work out whether you are feeling guilt in a moral sense or in a legal sense. There may be some grey area here, so you may need to seek advice from those who are most likely to know - a lawyer or the Police. Clearing your conscience appears to be a top priority here, so do not hide anything from anyone. The chances are you have a lot less to worry about than you think.

2006-11-27 21:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Stealthbong 4 · 0 0

If it was a genuine accident, do not blame yourself. Maybe you should consider seeing a coucellor, they will be able to help you through this hard time. It wont be easy, but remember lots of bad things happen that we as simple human beings cant control, so go see a professional, Im sorry to say that the answers you are looking for will come from qualified people, not community users like on here.

2006-11-27 21:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0 0

Did you really killed him or you are just bleming yourself for not being able to save him form danger. Any way no matter what there is nothing too big for God. Just ask God to forgive you for the mistake and He will surely do and cleans you from all your dirt deed for He is rich in mercy. Don't condemn yourself anymore cos the more you do the more the devil keep accusing you. And do you believe that God loves you and is no longer counting your sins against you because someone bought you with a price. (JESUS CHRIST).
If you are not born again and you will like to give your life to Christ just do what Roman 10 :9 - 10 says and you will be saved. Ask Jesus to come into your heart and be the Lord of your life. Ask him to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness then thank him for forgiving you and saving your life.
God Bless you

2006-11-27 22:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by lauretta e 1 · 0 0

You say that you feel you killed some one, you feel responsible, so I assume that you did not actually go and murder him, so if confessing will help ease your mind then do so, with a friend or at a church if you need, but if you HAVE murdered some one then you must go to the police or things could just get worse.

2006-11-27 21:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

Killing someone and blaming yourself for their death are different things.

You need to see a counsellor or a priest/vicar to discuss it all.

If for example you were driving a car dangerously, had a smash and your friend was killed then i can understand why you blame yourself. You will need counselling to get over this.

Whatever happened, he is dead and you are alive. You need to go on living and be at peace with yourself. Go and see your doctor who will arrange counselling, or talk to the Samaritans. I believe you can also contact them online and ask a question.

2006-11-27 22:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0 0

Feeling responsible doesn't mean Guilt I don't know the full details but because you didn't do anything to help when you feel you should have (because likely there was nothing you could have done) doesn't mean it is your fault.

Try and move on live and enjoy your life like I'm sure your friend would want you to

Take care and if you need to don't be ashamed to see a councillor

2006-11-27 21:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0 0

You can only confess to a crime if you really did commit it. If on the other hand you are feeling grief for the death of your friend perhaps you could speak to cruse the bereavement councillors

2006-11-27 21:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0 0

If you did it directly or indirectly or in fact didn't have much to do with it, I would talk to someone about it, maybe a priest or just a random person. get it off your chest. I felt responsible when I was a passenger in my mates car, he was driving and had an accident and died, but it Wasn't my fault. It just depends on the circumstances. hope that helps!

2006-11-27 21:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you are either responsible for his death or not. I think deep down you know the answer. if you can't seem to find that answer...maybe you should tell your side of the story. this should but your contions at ease. you need to decide if you can live with the fact that you are keeping quite. ask your self this: what would your friend have done if he was in your position.

2006-11-27 22:47:32 · answer #11 · answered by Levi 2 · 0 0

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