my uncle passed away last week and i was at the hospital when it happened.My aunt and cousins were there too and really appreciated me being there(i havnt seen them since i was a little girl) My uncle thought a lot of me and i had only visited him at home the weekend before he died. My problem is that i said i would go to the funeral, but his family has had his body taken back to their town which is over seven hours drive away, Im not sure taking my two young children on such a long drive on my own is a good idea and i will have to borrow money for the cost of fuel and a motel , does anyone have any advice?
2006-11-27 21:20:15 · 7 answers · asked by hope v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
unfortunatly there is no room at my aunts house for me to stay and i have no one i can leave the kids with
2006-11-27 21:26:18 · update #1
personnal I do not think you should go..They will understand..Say a prayer for the family and write them a nice note explaining why you didn't go. sorry for your lost.
2006-11-27 21:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Connie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not leave the kids at home with someone you trust, call your aunt and see if you can stay there, if not, drive down for the funeral, stay 1 night in a motel, and drive home. You could not go but; you said you would go. You may regret not going in the future.
2006-11-27 21:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have family members who couldn't get to different funerals (my mother's, aunts, uncle, etc.); and people generally understand I think.
You saw your uncle before he went. Maybe you could explain to them that you can't take the children for a seven-hour trip or that you'd have to borrow to rent a car (maybe because your car has some problem?) and stay at a hotel. Just be (sort-of) honest.
You could mention that it kind of threw off your plans to get to the funeral when they moved him so far away.
2006-11-27 21:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your relatives will understand if you don't/can't go. How you cared about your uncle matters more than anything and you will be criticised if you go ,or if you don't. Think about yourself and your children. No one should tell you what to do, or how to grieve.
Having just lost my mum, I felt like there was a competition going on called "who's cried the most?"
2006-11-27 21:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by spamela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you decided to go can you and the kids stay with family to cut cost?
2006-11-27 21:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send flowers and a sympathy card.
2006-11-27 21:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes go, or you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-11-27 21:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by David H 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋