I met him about 9 mnths ago, and we had an intense spiritual, emotional relationship. He turned my life around, made me see things about myself that I had never before. It was like he was placed in my life to guide me. He warned me not to fall in love with him, since he was graduating college and going off to do his own thing, but nevertheless I fell in love with him. He sensed it and started pulling away, and at this point so many things in my life were clearing up and I couldn't bear to have him leave. I fell into severe depression to the point where there were several attempts at suicide. I was admitted to a Psych ward for 2 days. After that (this was april) we didn't talk for a long while, and I tried "getting over him." Everything-Denial to rebounds. But I feel he is my soulmate. He still makes efforts to stay friends and keep in touch. I still have hope that I'll be with him in the future, marrying him. I can't talk to him. I don't want to sacrifice our friendship. What do I do?
2006-11-27 21:07:41 · 10 answers · asked by rosie19302 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It doesn't sound like there is much of friendship there. He probably feels guilty that you wacked out the way you did. Have you tried giving it time to get over him? I'm sorry that you had to go to such lengths to get his attention. I feel sorry for him and for you. I hope you have learned that no man is worth your life and I hope you realize how lucky you are to be alive today. Give it time and get into group or one on one therapy or both. You may feel his is your soul mate but; don't you think that if he was your soul mate, things would not have gone the way did. If you were truly meant to be, you would be but; your not. What does that tell you?
2006-11-27 21:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very sad and appalling to hear that you had suicide attempts. Probably he is just there to be your friend. He might be in love with someone else. Talk to him. Explain him how much you love. Also talk to the doctor and ask them for their help. Doctors are very helpful people. They are capable of curing the person's physical and mental injury. This might help you out very well.
Your crush might probably be one of the passing clouds in your entire life. You will fall in love with many people like him.
Try to forget about you loving him. Instead of thinking of getting him, think about being his friend. Friendship is as nearly the same as love. Friendship and love last forever as they bond people together.
Leave the option of accepting or declining your love to him.
I am hoping that you get well soon and don't attempt to suicide again. Take care!
2006-11-27 21:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no man is worth you taking your own life there are many people in the world that would love to love you wait tell the next one comes around i was so in love that i only saw through rose colored glasses i thought i could never love again put you learn that life brings ou many gifts and many love just be paciant and things will work out i hope that you know that your life is worth liveing i have been down your path message me if you need to chat i feel for ou and i know you are a strong person becase you were brave and asked for help
2006-11-27 21:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should at least temporarily sever your ties with him until your feelings are that of "only" a friend. If he has not resiprocated your feelings to you, and backed away, he probably is never going to. So backing off for now, would be the "best thing" for you, to give yourself a chance to heal. For now staying friends with him, will only stir up all those old feelings, and then you could possibly slip back into that depression. You need to take care of "you" for now!!!
2006-11-27 21:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn (AzCrazyGirl) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh babe, look! Lifes too short to be losing our friendships. We need them more than ever. Have you tried meeting new guys or being around people who make you feel happy? Don't go throwing your life away on a guy who doesn't see you as anything more than just friends. I will pray for you. Ok. Good luck hey & let me know the answer to your question. Peace
2006-11-27 21:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rooster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds more like he's feeling sorry for you than in love with you!!
You must move on and that is ridiiculous to chase someone who doesn't feel the same way about you.
You are wasting your life worried about one man. There is more than one "soul mate" for every person. You just need to find him.
2006-11-27 21:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let him settle down first , mean time keep your chatting on as a good friend , you must have faith and patience , he will be yours if you allow him to stand on his feet and encourage him to grow and become mature . Good luck .
2006-11-27 21:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you trust in himself? How much do you love him and care for him? If you think all answers in positive, then ask him to get married with you. Prepare for everything to listen. God will be with you if it's from your deepest of your heart. Always be positive and trust in God.
2006-11-27 21:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is you have to let it go. I don't even think your going to be able to be friends with this person. Time fixes everything. It's painfull but it will fix it.
2006-11-27 21:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by Rusty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CLOSE THE BOOK, MOve on?
2006-11-27 21:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by mzladygrace 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋