Being Concious in public?

Question

1. Have you ever eaten alone at a big restaurant? (not a mcdonald's etc)?

2. Have you ever relaxed at a beach alone that is somewhat crowded with families?

3. Have you ever gone to a movie alone?

Have you ever felt concious that others might be "evaluating" you in the above 3 situations?

how would you feel if you bumped into some family that knows you? in the above 3 situations.

thanks,

bruce

Answer 1

Ahh, yeah! All the time. If you don't do the basics like eat, or pass up on what could be fun just because you are afraid of what other people think, then your life will really suck.

I travel alone a lot for work, and move to new areas. When you get to a new area and it takes time to meet people, your life shouldn't stop. And even when I meet new Friends, movies isn't the first thing I start inviting them to do.

If I am alone, I still eat and watch movies where and when I want. It is a good time to do what you want to do when you want to do it. Sure, going on dates, with friends and family are great. But a mix of alone time and doing EXACTLY what you want to do every once in awhile is great too. That's what I have learned,

I have even done that beach thing. I was vacationing with a buddy. We traveled around for 2 months. Then he had to head home to work and I still had a month. Guess what? I Met more people in that last month than the previous 2 months. Sometimes when relaxing on the beach alone.

If I run into people? That is awkward only because I might want to be alone, they may have plans, and you don't want to intrude. Then you second guess invitations to join them, or look snobby if you reject it.

I do know what you mean. I was traveling this long weekend to meet friends. I had a one night stop along the way. I went to the bar alone, and did feel strangers eyes on me kind of saying look at him alone. I had been in the area traveling through alone like that and to the bars lots. Usually don't feel that way.

Answer 2

perhaps you are right, and i am self conscious about my image. i never go and eat in a big restaurant, but its cause i always have someone to go with. I couldn't care if i was at a Beach by myself. and a movie alone, i have never done that, its more fun with people.

Answer 3

Do what makes you happy in life. As long as it doesn't hurt anybody (intentionally) who cares what others (strangers or people you know) think.

I would do anything I wanted to do alone and not care what others thought.

If we spend our lives worrying what others will think of what we do we will never be happy.

Answer 4

hhmmmm.. for me if i really know them i'll say hi! and ask "how's life" like a normal greetings...and do some talking etc (that is .. if you are close to them...)
but.. if not just smile.. just to show courtesy.. and respect... (but be sure that they really know you)...ok?