Am I ready for marriage?

Question

I am love with a man I have been dating for four years, we have lived together for one year. Not long after I moved in he cheated on me, I forgave him but I cannot forget. He said he did it because he wasn't ready for me to move in. Now we are happy and he has said he is going to propose to me this christmas which I am very excited about. Here is the but..... my eyes have started to wander and I have started to think about another man (whome I don't really know that well anyway). Am I having a delayed reaction to his cheating? Or am I feeling uncertain about him because I have only slept with three men in my life?

Answer 1

I think that whatever the reason for your intereste in this other man, it is telling you one very important thing: you probably arent ready for marriage. as much as you probably do want to get married, maybe this is a way of telling you to give it a bit more time. it doesnt mean that you dont love your partner. perhaps you should just take a bit of time before deciding on marriage, and spend it on analysing your relationship and if this is really what you want. marriage should be for life. so your partner should be the only man in your life, when you decide to marry. perhaps just for now, take time to enjoy eachothers company and maybe you can look forward to a Valentine's Day Proposal in a few months time!
Whatever you decide, follow your heart. The decision either way has to be right for you, as you are the one living your life.

Maybe discuss with your partner your concerns? \

Best of luck in your relationship

Answer 2

Sounds like you are not ready to marry. 4 years and he has not married you yet and you move in togather? Kinda got the cart before the horse didn't you? Even after one marries, they still check out the opposite sex, but they DO NOT touch.
Maybe I should get with the times, why buy the cow if the milk is free huh?
No, on second thought I'll stick with one Lady instead of tramp hopping around, I still have my standards.

Answer 3

confident, hon, the age does certainly count number..... What you elect at 17 isn't comparable to what you elect in a companion at 27. in case you have not finished your preparation (college or a profession or salable capacity) and each of you yet would not have preparation and a competent job, then you definately are actually not yet waiting to marry. in case you have not controlled money, a companion and childrens or understand a thank you to do this, you're actually not yet waiting to marry. If each of you is coming from a house including your dad and mom right into a house of your guy or woman, you're actually not waiting to marry. ( And for specific, you're actually not waiting to be dad and mom, till you have some geese in a row, have a great relationship of a minimum of three years residing mutually as husband and spouse, and are arranged to: loose many nights sleep with a screaming, colic toddler, a annoying newborn of two, the time invested in nurturing, and rebellious young infants, and this not counting the investment of $250,000 in yet somebody else to age 20, who will possibly not even such as you.... having a newborn would not assure a being concerned grownup newborn.) Are you waiting to marry? No. Volunteering on projects is a some distance cry from wisdom that Marriage is: admire, Admiration, pastime and have faith, with quite some lovies, fixing differences with out rage, having plenty in easy, looking after the different's ideas, permitting one yet another area, and at circumstances in basic terms "shutting the hell up." Your politics, faith, concepts on infants, race, and academic and psychological ranges could desire to be close. Your hobbies could be shared, as nicely as finished in my opinion. and you're able to desire to agree how overtime and money could desire to be spent. Are you waiting to marry?

Answer 4

I think you are not ready for marriage....sometimes relationships get to a point where you either break up or get married and well most just don't want to let go of such a big part of their life but I don't see this being a good step.

Answer 5

you are both not ready.
a marriage should be built on trust. you are already adulterous, what makes you think things will change.first change yourselves, then maybe you can become someone people can call a loving wife.
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Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

have you ever heard of Jesus?

Answer 6

yeah your not ready at all
you need to just be friends or just live together
better yet you can be engaged for any length of time try it out but don't set any near future dates say two or three years before the marriage allot of couples make the mistake of taking a engagement and immediately following it off with a wedding
take your time you ll know when its right

Answer 7

U are ready. Dont let ur mind ctrl ur soul. Think abt it.. perhaps things will get better after married? Anyway, no point wandering abt this n that and ended up nothing done right? Go for it..

Answer 8

You're a hoe...don't trap your man. Set him free, and let him be happy. There is no reason for him to be in a relationship...no reason what so ever. As a matter of fact, the sooner the better!!!

Answer 9

Just the fact that you have to ask tells me alot.
Good Luck and remember "whenever you rush buying, you're always sorry about the purchase".

Answer 10

_only_ three men??? You shouldn't have slept with any. Neither you nor the man care about each other. You are not ready for marriage.