I've been with my husband 2 years and it drives me crazy when he goes out partying all weekend like there is nothing else to do or spend the money on, or even worse like haven't been out in a lonngggg time..... am i crazy ? I really think is childish!
2006-11-27 20:07:29 · 38 answers · asked by lissy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
put your foot down and tell him to either grow up and stop partying every weekend and take you out more often or he'll be out on his ear/butt/whatever, and mean it, if he doesn't listen, you don't have to kick him out for long, just long enough for you to feel satisfied that he got the message. hopefully after that he'll understand that it takes two too make a marriage/relationship work.
2006-11-27 21:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by tribalgirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he could agree to go out every other weekend or even once a month!! I am guessing you have children to look after or you would be out there with him. He is being quite inconsiderate!!
Have you tried sitting down and talking to him. It is a key thing in marriage to be able to talk to one another. He should respect your feelings and give a bit.
I am lucky in that my husband goes to his local every Friday after work and still comes home about 6pm because he gets bored.
I don't see your hubby going quite that far, maybe eventually.. I have been married for two years too. We have been together for 8 years. We only get out together about once or twice a year because of needing a babysitter I can trust and money issues!
Maybe you can try and find something fun you can do together. I don't know how old your husband is but he does need to realise that abandoning his wife every weekend to do what a student would do is a little unfair.
Talk to him try and get him to see what his lifestyle is doing to his marriage.
Hope that helps babe.
2006-11-27 20:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he's wrong. Marriage takes respect & responsability. Also, considering you haven't been out in a very long time, maybe you two could go out together this weekend. Try talking with him about the money he's spending and his financial responsabilities. After all, it's no longer just his money he's blowing and you do have a say.
2006-11-27 20:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by jferleigh05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are totally right, my dad (and i know its not the same as a husband) would go out all the time on my mom just trying to find a way to spend money, and he loves to go partying with his friends.I think it is very very very childish and i couldnt agree with you more!
2006-11-27 20:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by ChicagoCubs12_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're crazy. It would bother me if it was all the time. I would rather be the one he wants to hang out with rather then going out partying with a bunch of people. Only if it was all the time though. Here and there is no big deal.
2006-11-27 20:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong, and i don't blame you for feeling the way you do, he is being very unfair to you, and needs to change his ways very smartly, There is no way i would sit home, while my husband or partner went out all weekend, and spent money like its going out of fasihion...........and you do need to get out and have some fun with your friends, its only natural, that your feel this way, so stop feeling guilty and take action, good luck and god bless
2006-11-27 20:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to strike the right balance - there's nothing wrong with him going out without you from time to time, but you do need to get a look in! Try talking to him, and I am sure the situation will improve. Good luck!! x
2006-11-27 20:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by adamseymourdavies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down. He is not being very fair and needs to put your needs first. If you want to save your marriage then he needs to change so sit down with him and lay it on the line.
You could always try relate it's worth having a go.
Why don't you go out all the time and not make his meals or say no to sex. He has to realise that it's a partnership not his mother
Good Luck and please let us all know how you go on.
Jeff x
2006-11-27 20:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you and he need to sit down and talk about this.
It is completely out of order that he is doing this - I reccommend that you both go out together to a restaurant/pub/club. If you don't want to go out yourself and would rather he stayed at home, then you maybe should provide an incentive, for example, cooking him a nice meal.
2006-11-27 20:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up. Why is he partying w/o you? Just do not think having a child will keep him home. Go to school, make use of your time, pave the way to your own futue if he does not want to be a part of it.
2006-11-27 20:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by melinda_rn2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋