i met this guy i like alot and we seem to have lots in common,but one nite i got a call from him asking me about some photo of me on a porn site and he asked if it was me. i went to the site and in plain day there it was i photo of me in an ad saying some really ranchy things ,,but it wasn't my ad. someone used my photo from a dating service from another site. i would be lying if i told him its not me in the photo, but i didn't put up this ad ..i want to talk to him about it but how should i go about this.. what would you do?
2006-11-27 19:29:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
someone stold my photo and put it in this ad
2006-11-27 19:31:26 · update #1
C'mon, you're not yanking us, just a little? Perhaps you're being on the up and up; you didn't put out that 'raunchy' ad. Someone else got a hold of your pic, yada yada. Great, then why are you asking us about something that barely requires any thought--your new guy should believe you because you're telling the truth. Right? Unless he might have reason to believe that something in your past isn't as on the up and up as you're being now. I get the feeling you want us to "forgive" you, even on the slightest possibility that it could have been you that put up the 'raunchy' ad. I mean, why not? I've got a gay buddy who did the very same thing, was a little naive about who he sent his pics to on a regular basis (you guys sling those things around like condoms, esp. the "adult" pics--ha!), and bingo! same thing happens to him. I'm not saying you should be crucified for being a little careless, a little naive, but don't try to make us think that your pic was something this crook had to hack into your computer to find. And besides, everyone makes mistakes. I mean, your new guy was himself on a porn site, so if he tries to get high and mighty about it, you don't need that kind of flack from someone just as interested in something he might judge you for participating in. So relax. You learned your lesson, you'll be more careful in the future, so no harm done.
2006-11-27 20:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him the truth. Sure, it may raise the question as to why such a photo even exists... but the fact that appears in an ad and you had nothing to do with it was stolen from your control by either a hacker or an over zealous friend. Don't try to deny the fact that the picture itself is of you because you don't want to get caught in a lie. The truth is... if there is this one picture of you at a porn site, then what else is there that he may discover about you if he should decide to do some internet digging.
Best of luck...
2006-11-28 03:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out hte truth. He is either going to believe you or not, but at least you will know it is the truth. Face it a nice picture like yours has been stolen a lot, not just once. You might run across this problem again. Or have him answer the ad and then you can show him it isn't you because the person will not want to meet him because - well because they are not you and don't look like you.
2006-11-28 11:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth that it is not you and your photo was misused. Also, do something about your photo in the porn site. Ask or call or sue them. Your actions will support your statement and convey the message "I'm telling the truth. I'm pissed with this site. And I hope we can still go out."
Good luck!
2006-11-28 03:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey Azriel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth; it may be your photo but it wasn't your ad. If he refuses to believe you then he is not the one for you. You want to build a relationship based on trust and if it's not there to begin with, why even try?
2006-11-28 03:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest, and tell him exactly what you just said...explain how embarrased you are, but that you had posted the photo on a dating service site a while ago.
Hope that helps!
2006-11-28 03:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nothing but the truth. Look at this as a good opportunity to know him better. You will know if you guys can go further, by his response & assessment after your explaination. No matter what, you both have to move on & live with it.
Identify your truths. Share you truths with him & live your truths no matter what. Good luck!
2006-11-28 03:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Tell him that your pic was taken and that could and does happen often to pretty girls like you. If he doesn't understand then he is not worth your time, you obviously can get another date. Take care sister.
2006-11-28 03:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an issue. Either he trusts you to tell the truth or he doesn't.
Why bother worrying about someone who won't trust you?
Don't fret. You take it easy.
2006-11-28 03:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have already given your side, thats enough. You really don't have to keep proving which is right and which is wrong.
If he won't believe you, its his problem not yours.
Ask him this question: "Why would I humiliate myself doing that?"
2006-11-28 03:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋