I would leave my husband if he is gay or bi again?

Question

the only problem is we have 2 kids together. I don't want to hear he is gay or bi or what ever but I won't be with him if he is.

Answer 1

You have to remember that you guys already have 2 kids together. I think you should try to work the marriage out, you've probably tried talking to him, but if that doesn't work out then you two should seek counselingl.

Answer 2

I'm not sure if you're confirming whether he's gay or bi. Personally, I don't think you have to be with him if it's a detriment to your own emotional health to stay married to him. Being a woman with a gay/bi husband is a challenge, to be sure, emotionally especially. And obviously, having children is not a real decision-maker for him as far as his sexuality is concerned. And you shouldn't let them be either. Again, I'm not sure if you're just speculating, or simply venting, but if he's gay and you don't want to be married to him, kids or no kids, then I think you should file for a divorce immediately. Why ask a forum a question you've already answered?

Answer 3

if he is Bi, then you could still live a happy life together. It may come as a surprise to you, but there arent too many people on this earth that are 100% straight! i pasted a link to the kinsey scale. At one end of the scale there are the completely straight people, at the other, the completely gay people...and hon, there are a ton of people somewhere inbetween!! You would be foolish to throw away your marriage over this.

Answer 4

My first concern is you and your kids. I have a concern because when people have sex with multiple partners or men with men, HIV and AIDS is very easy to catch. If you get it from your husband you can give it to your kids. If you get this you will die eventally. And it's a sad death. I am a counselor and I have seen it first hand. Whether you stay with him or not is up to you, no one can tell you what to do. But you need to know the facts. Men who have sex with men most likely end up with HIV and AIDS. Do you want to risk your family? There's nothing wrong with you staying together in the house but each see other people, as long as you don't have sex with him. I know what I am talking about because a friend of mine just found out that her son is HIV positive and his situation is the same as yours.

Answer 5

why would you leave him? you love him rite and Im sure your kids do so why not stay in the marriage, if thats not enough to keep you two together then split I have 3 kids and their father is in their life every single day and we are not together it's easy but I still love him so it's hard.

Answer 6

do what you will, and even though it is a sin to be gay, don't hate the person, hate the sin. Plus, keep in mind you have two kids, and if you break up, it isn't just affecting you two, it will have a HUGE impact on your kids. One of my closest friends had his parents break up when he was 15, and 2 years after they broke up, he started smoking, drinking, and hanging out with punks. He stopped hanging out with me, and one night when he was supposed to be at another friends house, he was killed in a car accident. Do what you will, but keep in mind you have kids.

Answer 7

"again?"

Are you saying he was at one time?

Hate to break it to you, but he still is! Always has been always will be.
That's just how it works.

But.....

If he loves you, is a good father, is good to you and the kids, is a good provider....why on Earth would you be so self-centered as to leave such a good man, regardless of his sexual orientation?

That just sounds petty and cruel on your part.

Answer 8

well he wouldn't be looking at gay porn all the time and having relations with guys if he wasn't.....

so ether learn to deal with the fact he's gay or bi and accept it.. nothing wrong with it....

or leave him.... and fight over the kids.....

Answer 9

What do you mean again? You made your choices then, deal with it.

Answer 10

Hi Living, You and me both sister!!!

Clowmy