What can be done to improve my love life?

Question

My wife and I have only been married for 6 months and I find myself completely unsatisfied with our love life. She NEVER initiates sex, and always says "no" repeatedly when I try to start things up. I have to essentially beg her 5-10 times and maybe 5 times per month, she reluctantly agrees to have sex. We're both fairly attractive so I don't think that is the issue. When I ask her about this, she claims she gets turned on by this routine. I hate this routine! We are 26 years old and it would be nice if my wife's version of foreplay wasn't to consistently reject me and make me feel like she is doing me a favor by giving in. I get extremely turned on when she initiates it, and feel virtually like a scumbag for always initiating it to a partner who always seems annoyed with my advances. She thinks guys like to play hard to get. I don't, and have told her so. If I didn't initiate every single time, we would probably have sex twice a year. Any advice/similar situations???

Answer 1

Get the book by Dr. Lauria "the care and feeding of a husband" or something like that. It might just open her eyes to your needs and what might happen if things don't change. I read it and felt
like I could change the world or at least my husbands. but as I read it he moved to another state and I am so hurt that I didn't have a chance to change our lives.

Answer 2

Wow, try sitting her down and fully explaining the situation to her. Everyone likes a little variety in life, and no one likes to initiate sex every time. Discuss all your options, and see if she responds well to any of them. Like maybe watch porn then do whatever is being done in the movie, or maybe talk about swinging. Be sure you're both in agreement on what to choose though! If that doesn't work, maybe you 2 could try couples therapy. Hope it works out for you though!

Answer 3

If she is honestly arroused by playing this little game, then maybe you should try to find a way to make it fun for you too. Nothing smutty, but roleplay a little. Like the characters from her favorite romance or something. I actually think its cute when my guy begs me for sex. Women want to know that they are desired. If you feel degraded by it, you need to tell her and try to brainstorm on another way to play cat and mouse ;)

Answer 4

I'm thinking medical reason, abuse from the past perhaps?
This is NOT normal behavior for a woman of that age.
Try sitting down with her and being brutally honest about your needs. Let her know that you will suport her in getting the help she needs, because help is what she has to have to be able to satisfy you. Good luck

Answer 5

tell her what u told us just tell her that this is ridiculous (and it is) that it turns u off and give her (if u can afford it (no offense) 50 bucks and say go spend this money on something very small so we can both be turned on tonight and from now on i am not going to beg u like a dog for bacon

Answer 6

I knew a woman who have been given pierced there and it ruined the nerve endings in that area. Now her goody do not artwork not greater. i does not take a raffle messing around with that. you in basic terms have one...

Answer 7

Wow, this is a tough situation. I guess it's time to say hello to your hands.

Answer 8

yep, tell her you have found someone who will say yes, and infact shes come on to you, and if your wife wont comply to growing up and acting married then you are out the door.

Answer 9

hmm

Answer 10

get her "HOW TO" book for christmas.