We've been together for 3 years on and off! We've always wanted a baby and now that we have one he just takes off! Now we're back together but I'm afraid it'll happen again. He acts like his actions don't affect me or our son! He never thinks about his actions!! What should I do, stay with him and try to work it out or should I break up with him?
2006-11-27 18:29:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, how old are you both? You seem young, both of you. Anyway, I think you should talk it out with your boyfriend. Be honest with each other and lay down your priorities and future plans. If you are included in his plans, stay with him. If his plans are leaning towards himself only, then I think you should go stand up for yourself and be strong for the sake of your child.
2006-11-27 18:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by curiousitywillnotkillcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering your relationship doesn't have a good track record -- on and off for three years -- and there is no marriage commitment, the outlook isn't too positive. You should've made sure the relationship was on firm ground before intentionally bringing a baby into the world.
Now that the baby is here someone has to take responsibility for him. If your boyfriend can't handle it then you need to take over. At the very least you should consider attempting to get child support so that you and your baby will have some kind of financial assistance. Consult an attorney.
2006-11-27 18:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
judging by the fact that the three years was on and off. It is going to happen again. Sounds to me like he keeps you waiting on hold for when he decides to come back. A contingency plan, I know this cause I use to do it. Most likely he will take off again. My best advise for you is to kick him to the curb I understand that you have a child together but staying with him may make a poor environment for the baby. All in all you have to figure out what you really want and go from there. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-27 18:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my dear, it will happen again until you to kick him in the a $s. (not literally) but guys do not mature until, well, the kids grow up. i am luckily with a very mature sweet man but he has his stupid moments too. only you know the details to your relationship, you have a child with this guy, he seems to be a dirt-bag and i would personally take offense because my husband and i both see cheating and not being around for his wife and son or vice versa is cheating on the entire family...he is really losing out so much irreplaceable time that you get to forever cherish with your son. please take care of your baby as number one since his daddy does not...once he gets to be about 2 1/2 or 3 he will notice and when he reacts strangely to his father then the father will realize what a dirt-bag he is.
2006-11-27 18:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recommend some counseling to him, if he goes, than try to pursue with the relationship.. if nothing happens after that, i would tell him what you are thinking and why you are thinking the question u just asked..and if you tell him whats going through your head, he may just come around. And quit, but i would go with some kinda counseling...Or just sit down and talk to him, you never know, he might change even over a little talk. if none of this works, i suggest you go, becuase this kinda thing can mess up your whole life. And you dont need somebody liek that..
2006-11-27 18:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot. Why did you have a kid with him in the first place? Did you think getting pregnant would change him? Who's the immature one. If the kids a girl, she's either gunna be a stripper or porn star. If it's a boy, he's gunna be just like his daddy. Thanks for more welfare mouths to feed!
2006-11-27 18:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has had his track shoes on for a while -- and you have not yet taken the hint?
This guy needs to be left behind -- for your own sake and the sake of your son -- and you DEFINITELY do NOT want any other children with him!
2006-11-27 18:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know is hard that way .. mostly when you have been trying so hard... i think is NOT the right moment for him ... so if you want to wait .. wait if NOT just break up with him.
2006-11-27 18:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Naheidelyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with him and talk to him . he might be overwhelmed with having a son..... try to help him out with it
2006-11-27 18:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word,
Dump
You have a child to raise you don't need another(him)
2006-11-27 18:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋