I have never felt so ugly in my life.?

Question

I'm really shy and lately this has just put me over the top. I never thought I was ugly before untill about a month ago. It seems like everyday someone says something about how I look. Like this one kid jokes around, calls me big nose and as gay as it is it really does make me feel horrible about myself. it drives me crazy! Another kid on the bus started saying crap that my teeth are too big which I have gotten a lot in the past but they really aren't so bad just a little bigger. I don't want people, who even are my friends to think I'm ugly and it pisses me off because up to 8th grade I never felt so afull about my looks. I actually thought i was pretty and even though my looks are different they made me unique and still attractive. I just feel like crap and I am breaking down! Aside from plasitc surgery and crap I think I've done about all there is to make me pretty and I'm sick of it! I need advice to feel okay again. Please don't lecture me on how it's not all about looks, I know

Answer 1

Some people feel like the only way to make themselves feel better is to make other people feel worse. It's particularly likely to happen when you're a teenager, and being shy makes you an easy target for them. It has NOTHING to do with how you actually look, and EVERYTHING to do with the image that you project. The thing that IS important to them is that they think that they can get you upset by pointing out the ways that you are "different". If you liked reading more than most people, or liked comic books, or anything that's not "normal" they'd be teasing you about that instead.

You've got two options here: you can learn to ignore them and remind yourself that they're doing this because they're so insecure that they'll do anything to divert attention from their own "differences" or you can hit back by pointing out their own weaknesses. Ignoring them is the better option because hitting back can cause an escalation that could either develop into a violent situation or result in you getting a reputation as a huge b*tch.

You are who you are, and that is not something that depends on what you look like. Learn to value yourself for who you are and know that you're stronger than they are, because YOU know that you don't need to make someone else feel small in order to feel good about yourself.

Answer 2

Lol, your question title was a little funny...but I definitely empathize with your feelings. I'm only HALFWAY through my pregnancy (5 months/21 weeks), and I'm already going crazy and just wanting to be done being pregnant most days. I know it must get 10 times more unbearable as the time goes on, but just know you've made it this far (good job!) and, it's for a great cause :) Pregnancy IS hard, and many people don't realize that unless and until they become pregnant themselves (men...will NEVER understand..), but it's just one more of the many things we as women must do to bring beautiful children into the world. However, bearing this lot in life can get incredibly frustrating. Since you're almost there..the good news is no matter how long it FEELS time is passing by, the odds are you won't have much longer before the big day finally arrives! Until then, do whatever you can to waste the hours away and keep yourself busy. Perfect the baby's nursery (washing clothes, bedding) or organizing any last minute items. You could also do some light cleaning, and do some things that might interest you and occupy your mind such as a hobby of some sort. Knitting, reading a good book, surfing the internet, or even renting/watching a few new movies will help keep your mind off the effects of the 'Waiting Game'. If you feel good enough to go out, try getting some much-needed personal time in, as it will be your absolute last completely child-free. Go out to dinner, or to a show...maybe even just for a nice drive or a walk with someone you know and enjoy spending time with. Get your fun in now, and it will double in easing you of your anxieties and the anticipation of hurrying up and having your baby. And, don't be too worried about the whole induction business. IF you go over 40 weeks (which is considered *officially* 'full' term), your OB will most likely induce at some point soon after to prevent any possible health concerns. So, just relax and try to just breathe for now.

Answer 3

did the kids say "mom! she so ugly!" all they said was that you had a big nose and big teeth and i have big teeth! its one of my best features! you know, i wouldnt change a thing about the girl im deeply in love with even though shes not perfect, i love her flaws just as much if not more than her beautiful parts because they are what really makes who she is, if she get ride of them then it would be like as if something died and i'll be heart broken even though she doesnt even know that i exist anyways...if you done everything to look beautiful then you sure forgot the most important part, self confidence and assurance...

Answer 4

Paige:
everyone feels ugly at certain times in life. whether weight, looks or what ever and often those ugly ducklings turn into beautiful swans.
You needto like you first and the create your own style and be confident about what you do and wear ad ignare all others, another words be your own person and create your own style and guess what, you will attract people ofsimilar interest and you will blossom and mature, think beautiful and you will be beautiful and be yourself and start be going to secretsinlace.com and buy what makes you feel glamourous and your will be glamaourous

Answer 5

Try to go back to how you felt before 8th grade. Jr. high and high school are really hard. Everyone is self-conscious. The people mocking you are just trying to take the attention off of themselves. They feel just as worried about their looks as you do. I know it's hard, but try to ignore them. Do your best to build up your confidence by looking in the mirror and thinking about the things you like about yourself. And surround yourself with friends who can recognize how pretty you are. Certainly if you thought you were pretty before, then you were. And that means you still are.

Answer 6

heres the best advice i can give you, have a good personality. If you dont have the looks make up for it by being friendly, approachable, funny, sweet, things that people are drawn too. As for your friends, as karma goes, im sure you will grow into your "big nose" and "big teeth" and become super hot, where-as everyone teasing you will become fat an get major acne. It how life usually works. lol

Answer 7

you are at that age where ....everyone around you says things...it's just the ugly duckling stage...we all have and will go through it...i have been called UGG-MOE from birth...then at 17 I became a Guess Model, i did fashion shows all over the place...and yes...until my sophomore year...i was still being call UGG_MOE...now I have a killer body....i think I am oay in looks,,i don't want to judge myself...not everyone thinks Cindy Crawford is pretty...although she was the highest paid model in the world...just ignore them....they will be out of your life before you know it...just wait till you et your women face....i am sure you are pretty now...but you'll be a knock out before you know it...hang in there kiddo...i am sure ever one on this site has dealt with the same issues....

Answer 8

everyone has somethign they dont like about themselves
and these people are pushing your buttons, they know its aggravting you and thats proabbly why ther continuing
dont be mean back jsut maybe point out some of there flaws in a hrash way and maybe theyll back off
and your right it is what makes you unique
there are plenty of pretty people with a big nose
if it makes you feel better critize others (in your mind) and point out eveyone leses falws to yourself, it will probably make yourself feel more secure of yourself
and also sme guys may think your hot **** and others not soo much
so you also have to accept that some people may not think your goegeous

Answer 9

The world is the mirror of our self’s reflection. If we feel beautiful about ourselves, we often see the world is beautiful. People who like to judge others, they often don't like about themselves. Down deep inside, that's a fear & a feeling of insecurity which make them want to judge others for the shake of making them feel superior & greater than others.

So, next time, if they ever come to you & criticize on how you look. You may just look at them & smile, as they are talking about themselves.

“All definition is a self-definition, all judgment is self-judgment.”

Answer 10

You only believe what u let yourself believe...dont let others influence how u feel about urself cuz u are just unique and u said it urself u thought u was pretty and unique and u are. U believe what u are not what people make u to be