my wife is 7 months pregant and she doesnt feel comfortable being naked in front of me. I tell her all the time that she is so beautiful but she still feels shy and wants me to leave the room when she gets dressed...She has always been like this even when she wasnt pregnant..I asked her why and she said she doesnt know why she cant get dressed in front of me that she has always been like that even in previous relationships... She only gets naked when we are about to make love and the room has to be dark.. Is it me? Why cant my wife be naked in front of me?
2006-11-27 18:01:05 · 13 answers · asked by speedfreak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not you!!!!! She is totally okay and so are you! haha I think it's really cute.
She sounds very decent. Gosh, I can't think of the word. She's not a skank, that's for sure.
It's possible that there's been sexual abuse in the past, though.
My mom and sister are the exact same way. My mom's been married for YEARS AND YEARS and is still this way with my dad. She makes him turn off the lights before she gets undressed. She was sexually molested as a young teenager, so it's partly due to that. My sister is just extra modest. OH that's the word I was looking for!
Some women are just a lot more modest than others.
Don't worry about it. She was that way before and probably will be forever. Don't make her feel bad about it and don't let her think it's because of you that she's this way or she'll feel really bad and the problem still won't be fixed.
Just accept her for being this way and just think it's cute and realize you have a very modest wife and be glad of that.
2006-11-27 18:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem. My ex-boyfriends would point out every flaw or pound. And I was a size 6. I had no confidence about my body. Now I am married. I am a size 10 and my husband has NEVER said anything negative in 11 years. It took me a while to get over my insecurity. She needs time. Plus being pregnant she is going through changes even she might not be comfortable with seeing. She might feel like she's sparing you the (stretchmarks)details by not letting you see her naked. If you have not ever said anything negative, don't worry. This will pass.
2006-11-27 18:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visually stimulated, that's why there's so much visual naked stuff for men, and not so much for women. Women on the other hand, will read a romantic novel that a guy would just roll his eyes at. That's why there's so many romantic novels out there. A woman is not visually stimulated, and would not think its very important, and if a man pressures her into it, she would probably feel more goofy than natural.
Meh, maybe I'm wrong.
2006-11-27 18:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not you. Most women are this way. We tend to see our flaws (real or imaginary) and think guys are judging us as harshly as we judge ourselves. I'm not sure how to make her let this go. I'm still pretty much the same way and I've been in loads of relationships. The best thing you can do is continue to tell her that you find her attractive and compliment a certain part of her body that you like. Don't say her boobs or butt, that's what most guys say. Be original and say something like her shoulders or feet, something that doesn't immediately relate to sex and what guy are "suppose" to drool over.
2006-11-27 18:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes got some self esteem issues. You need to talk to her and find out where this is comming from. Remind her the day she gives birth the whole world will see her naked. I feel for you even though I've never been in that situation but thats gotta feel pretty yucky.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 18:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by HarleeNicole 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how long you have been with your wife- but with time she will be comfortable in front of you. Society has beaten it in our heads to cover up, since birth & it's a hard habit to break. Try candles in your room or try booking a hotel with a suite with a hot tub. Good luck.
2006-11-27 18:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by jyone scotani 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your wife has a case of low self esteem...there might be more going on..maybe its a phobia she has... theres nothing really that you can do about it.. telling her that she's beautiful and not bringing it up in a harsh way may help her get comfortable eventually... but i think she just needs time to feel comfortable with herself.. i wouldn't try to rush things.. it might just make things worse...good luck!
2006-11-27 18:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by leilabunnielove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some woman are worried about their appearance. What she sees in the mirror is not the same as you see it. She is picking out imperfections and is uncomfortable. Over time she will be ok with it..
2006-11-27 18:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it not u its that she feel that she is fat and cannot help it. she is 7 months pego so help her understand it is normal and u understand how she feels. plus take advantage of the lights off. play more with her. tease her more sexualy. love her more maybe. 2and half more months congades dude. her feeling will cange in 3 months. she will work out and gain more cofadence.
2006-11-27 18:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by matt_pietras_fredmeyer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women have self esteem issues. society says thin is beautiful, plus sizes aren't. even if you're only like 20lbs over weight (like me) you still feel fat and ugly. I don't know how to help you.
2006-11-27 18:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by phe_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋