dated two people at the same time? and what is the outcome?
I have a BF, but have flirted with another guy for a while now. To make a long story short, he really likes me even though I've told him I am not looking for a boyfriend. Anyway, I'm still not looking, but can't help, but think a few dates are probably not gonna hurt. I don't plan telling my BF because I know I don't want to leave him.
The new guy is extremely attractive and that I haven't dated for a long time since getting together with my BF. I kinda miss that. I really don't want to just skip him and regret it later. I figure if I go out with him a few times, it might give me a whole new perspective on certain things. What do you think I should do?
2006-11-27 17:41:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was very fickle and to picky but it paid off. I had three dates for a senior school dance. I didn't want to miss the dance. The first guy who asked and I accepted. Then another ask that I liked better. When the guy I dreamed of going with ask me I again accepted. Now I had three dates. I did worry and didn't have the nerve to tell the others no. I decided to go with the one who showed up first. I was sorry after one of them sat up in corner of the bleachers and watched me all night.
I came very close to getting married several times. I see how those guys turned out and I thank God that I refused them.
I dated a lot of guys until I knew I found the right one at the age of 22. We married 49 years ago and it has been a good lifetime experience. I wouldn't change a thing. I'm 71 now and we have a great time together. I love life being with my best friend and lover.
Go for it. Be picky until you find the right guy.. You can't look if you tie yourself up with just one guy. Play the field.
2006-11-27 18:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your going to be sorry for this. Don't throw away a good relationship, just because some flirt wants to get in your pants. Once he has you, he will be on his way, and you'll be left with a guilty conscience.
Plus a hurt boyfriend you'll have to explain things to.
Believe me this is the way it always works out.
If you don't think so...go ahead...play with fire.
If this new guy is so great, why doesn't he have a girl.?
Because he only chases the ones that are already taken.
That way he's safe. They can't tell and they can't hold him down.
Trust me he has more than one on the line.
Don't make yourself just another mark on his belt.
Your smarter than that, you deserve better.
You know the truth when you hear it...
Go home and hug the right guy. Good Luck & Best Wishes
2006-11-28 01:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The outcome can result in you losing both people. It's not a good thing when that happens but I think you should continue to explore this a little more (depending on how much more you will have to mention it to your boyfriend). This is your life and these are your experiences you want to look back and remember these fun dates with this new attractive guy.
2006-11-28 01:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Enchanted Crystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
flirting is cheatings cousin. Honestly, if you really feel that way, then maybe you're too young to be settled w/ one bf. I mean if you're "dating" you can date other ppl as well, but you have commited to this one guy, and going on a date w/ somone else is cheating. Better to just break up w/ him and date a few ppl, the new guy included. let them know where you stand and let them know there's no commitment at this time.
2006-11-28 01:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by phe_03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, but keep in mind that you may lose what you have by shopping around.
You know the risks, so be willing to accept the consequences.
You seem like you are young enough to find new loves, if you lost what you have and the new one don't work out.
Protect yourself from pregnancy and disease.
Be prepared to keep secrets, and to live with a guilty conscious.
2006-11-28 01:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just not fair, you tell the new guy about your boyfriend, but you don't tell your boyfriend you're dating someone else. But he's going to find out sooner or later. Can you live with that? I know I can't.
2006-11-28 01:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to not realize that what you are doing is cheating. Relationships do not last when there is a cheater involved. You have all the right to cheat and people do it all of the time. I just wanted to know that this kind of relation is not healthy. Dump one of them and all will be fine.
2006-11-28 01:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by dkf2222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't date this new guy unless you and your boyfriend have agreed that its okay to date other people. Period. If he finds out that you went behind his back, he'll leave. You said you don't want that, so your only choice is to fess up. Be honest. But don't be suprised if his answer is no and he starts to reevaluate your relationship. I wouldn't stick around if my significant other tried to pull that crap on me (unless we were long-distance, which can get tricky...).
Good luck!
2006-11-28 01:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m probably one of the most open minded people I know…I say that not to be conceited, but b/c you’re not going to like my answer. Sounds like you need a little lesson in Morals. I’m not going to give the lesson to you, don’t worry. Look, if you hurt someone you love…think of what else you’re capable of…. If you don’t love him…find someone you do love. If you’re not looking for love….tell him and then continue on your path to becoming a certified slut.
2006-11-28 02:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married right? The whole idea of dating is to meet lots of people and hopefully find Mr. or Ms. Right in there somewhere. Look around. Take your time.
2006-11-28 01:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋