What are some productive ways to enhance a long distance relationship?

Question

I'm in college and my boyfriend is 200 miles away...we only see each other maybe once a month...we're still very much in love, but we are starting to get fussy towards each other for no reason, I think its because of the frustration of not being together like we want to be....any helpful comments will be appreciated

Answer 1

My dear, i am in the same situation as you. my BF is 600km away. we are still studying and only meet once every 4 to 5 months. we keep our relationship more like a best friend relationship rather then a love relationship. The most importand of all is the word TRUST. with it you will be sucessful. We have been in a long distance relationship for more then 3 years now and we will be getting married end of next year.

My dear, I really want you to suceed. many people around you will discourage you saying that because he is not by your side,you will break up soon. dont believe it. if i can make it. you can too. just trust him. do more emails to him. sms him more. call him more. send you pictuers to him via MMS or email. let him know how much you love him.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 2

I was in a long distance relationship for the past two years, so I completely understand what you are going through! I finally gave in and transferred to the college he goes to, and I am so glad that we stayed together through it all. One thing we did to keep the relationship going was calling each other several times a day just to talk about little things. That way, we felt more involved in each other's lives. We also promised to never ever lie to one another, no matter what. That helped with the jealousy (which we never had to deal with before the long distance) because we knew that we would tell the other person if we did something we weren't proud of. We also sent each other e-mails and bought little presents for one another to remind the other person that we were thinking of them. I know its hard, but if you really think you're meant to be with that person, in the end when you can be together it is definitely worth it and your relationship is so much stronger because of it.

Answer 3

I'm interested to see what others say to this.

I too am in college in Fl. and my boyfriend still lives in Tx... so seeing each other has reduced to once every three months.
One thing that we do is good for both of us:
We found a pretty decent size mailing box. Probably the size of a textbook [well that works for us] will do. Each week we mail something back to the other. It's nothing extravagant, or costly. Most of the time it's a pair of his favorite boxers...or I'd mail him a racy thong.
Whatever it is, it's meant to bring back memories. Wether it's a ticket stub from your first date, or a new pack of socks because you KNOWW he always runs out.
And each time we mail the box, we draw a new picture on the outside of it.

It's really just something to look forward to and keep the other person guessing. It's a good way to keep the other person on their toes, and let them know that you're thinking about them.
It may not work for you, but for my beau and I...it's perfect.

Good luck to you!!

Answer 4

I know calling him up frequently would be such a lousy advice but you can make it work if you add some fun and excitement in it like having a phone sex, etc.

Use voice chat with cam2cam whenever you have time and talk as if you do not know each other.

Send flowers and cards from time to time even on ordinary day.

But my dear, 200 miles away is such a short train ride away. Surprise him every weekend and give him a wonderful massage!

Answer 5

Some suggestions either my friends or I have tried:

1.) make plans to visit...soon! then you can plan your visit together and what you'll do/show each other once the date arrives
2.) set up "chat dates" where you meet at a regular time online
3.) send each other fun things in the mail (photos, treats, objects with a special meaning or inside joke between you two)
4.) try reading the same book at the same time to keep you connected
5.) cehck out one another's campus website or newspaper once in a while so you're in tune with whats going on where the other one is at, and you can talk about it

...I'm out of suggestions. Long distance is super HARD. Good luck to you both!

Answer 6

My husband and I dated over 200 miles away and believe me, it's HARD! Try sending him a thinking of you card in the mail once in a while or see if your parents will help out by making him up a basket with his favorite snacks and putting your name on the card? Think creatively, there are all kinds of things you cand do besides running up the phone bill but keeping the romance alive.

Answer 7

Try the following:
1) more phone calls and instant messages and emails.. reassuring of how much this relationship means to u and how important the person is to u... do little things to make his day happeir and brighter..
2) Send a surpirse lovey dovery card.. (not an e-card.... Post it ..!!)
3) when getting a chance to meet, plan your time toegther..slect activities that make that date more meaningful and more memorable..
4) express ur feelings .
5) if possible, chat online with the webcam..(web cam is the important enhancement)

Answer 8

Well,something that worked out great for my now husband and me when he got deployed for almost a year was phone sex and steamy letters describing ourselves in different settings and characters and sexual situations. Lots of patience and an open mind is very helpful,too. Good luck,sweetie!!!!!!!