I was in a relationship about 2 and a hlf years ago with someone who was 6 months out of a very unhealthy relationship. She burned his things, punched him while he was driving, and tried to hit him with a claw hammer. He haad her arrested and got a restraing order against her. They have a 5 year old son together. About a year after we broke up, I realized how much he meant to me and tried to contact him, but found out he was back together with her. I had sent him a christmas card, that he had kept, and she found it and tried calling me. I told him I wanted to see him and he told me to come to his work, he didn't tell me he took her back though. He told my friend that he still cared about me, that he always did, and in a perfect world, we would be together. He said that he wasn't in love with her, but that it was complicated and he didn't want to confuse his son. I really worry about his well being. Does anyone have experience with that kind of relationship? I am scared for him.
2006-11-27 17:30:38 · 7 answers · asked by ecrc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He chose to go back. Stay away from all of this. If he wants a better life, he's going to have to make it for himself.
2006-11-27 17:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in a similar type of triangle. If he really does not love her and only his son, tell him you are willing to try to help with his son as a mother figure. I dont think the relationship is healthy for him nor his son. Some one should bring that to his attention. If he still cares for you then you two need to try for his and his son's sake. Granted the mother is important but the son does not have to live with the mom. Most states award custody to the first partent who putations the court. If this is all true than the sourt should have no problem in awarding the farther the child. I hope this helped. It is what my son's father and I did for his oldest.
2006-11-28 01:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cricket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize the world IS perfect it is people who are not. there is not a thing you or i could do to improve upon Gods' creation, but we can do a great deal to make ourselves a little bit healthier, happier and safer; that is not to borrow other peoples problems. why would you be afraid for him when clearly he could walk away if it were that bad. there are laws to protect him and his child. ask yourself, if someone burned your cloths ,punched you and used any kind of weapon against you-do you see yourself going back to them? then why would you invite that type of behavior into your life however the vehicle. that warrents prayer rather than your being scared for him. think about it!
2006-11-28 01:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by gg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until your friend can manage his life and what he wants, Im sure there are plaenty of people for you to hang out with. Move on--trust me, if he can keep you near, but keep you at a distance at the same time, he will. He may not intentionally be trying to hurt anyone, but he won't do what is best for you, it will be what is best for HIM, the kid, or both. Trust me, you are going to get hurt.
2006-11-28 01:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by kweenjenjen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, absolutely. I see it on Jerry Springer every once in a while. I encourage you all to call Jerry and see if you can settle your differences on the air.
2006-11-28 01:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you even know that we was telling the truth?... you heard only his side of the story......He didn't have to go back to her, obviously, he still love her, but just didn't the balls to tell you....he just wanted to string you along.....
2006-11-28 01:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out for lunch and ask him if he wants to be saved.He went back to her,it can't be that bad.
2006-11-28 01:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋