I am going to be 40 in 3 days and everyone says I don't look it. I do take good care of my body and self. My boyfriend is very happy with me and doesn't mind at all that he's 23 and that I will be 40. We are very much in love unlike other guys I've dated. Someone please help me. Is there something wrong with me or have i really found my soul mate? I've known him all His life and he has to little boys and I have one little boy. We want to spend the rest of our lives together but there's one big problem, I'm married and just don't have any lust or love for HIM anymore. I feel rotten about it, but I know I have truley found my soul mate.
2006-11-27 17:29:14 · 25 answers · asked by sexy bitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave your husband first, otherwise change your name to Whore.
2006-11-27 17:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have been mislead and decieved. You don't have lust or love for your husband because you DON'T WANT TO. It has nothing to do with not being a good match or not being attracted to him or anything like that.
You tell your husband exactly what's going on and how you're feeling and thinking. You atleast owe him that. You are being very selfish right now. Think about the vows you made with him years ago.
If you feel rotten about it then you are doing the wrong thing. You know this. And, honey, no matter what the movies say, there is no such thing as a "soul mate". Take it or leave it, I'm sure you'll leave it, but you still already chose who you'd be with forever and unless he's been beating the crap out of you and cheating on you and molesting your children you have no good reason under the sun to leave him and cheat on him!
If you were single, then I'd say to totally go for it. I know a couple where she's in her 40's and he's barely in his 20's, but, she's not married nor is he.
Follow your gut instincts cuz they'll never lead you wrong. You already know what's right, despite your "passion" and "feelings".
2006-11-27 17:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question was easy to answer at first, if it's just the age difference, go for it. He's probably more mature and ready to settle down with you.
But, already being married, and talking about jumping ship to be with this other guy, because you don't have any lust or love for him anymore, sends red warning flags up the pole.
Questions to ask yourself....
First, if you don't love HIM, why have you been staying with him?Why are those reasons any different because of the new man in your life?
Next, what about the kids?
And finally, is you hubby abusive? Can the relationship be salvaged, or is it truly dead?
Things are always more exciting in the begining. Don't throw everything away without a good long look at the situation. What's in your best interest in the long haul? Will you feel good about this decision 10 years from now?
Just my 2 cents.
Best wishes!
2006-11-27 17:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by NeckLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one person you made very little mention of is your son. Your impending split from your husband will likely have a devasting and very long term effect on your little boy. There are no guarantees in your future with your boyfriend either. I understand it's a tragic thing when you are married to someone when your true love comes along but I would be much more supportive of your new relationship if there were not a small child involve
2006-11-27 17:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Joe J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story is kind of conflicting at the end.R u a married woman in love with a 23 yr old?.Here is what i have to say.he is 23 and might change his mind along the way.Girls his age will come into the picture when u r 40 someting or 50.Be careful
2006-11-27 17:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ben S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the a lengthy time period. If both is lower than the age of consent, they can make up a tale about sexual harassment and get the different in worry. After that, 20 and 18 or 30 and 28, and so on - it receives a lot less of a deal as you become old. My grandpa and 'ma are 9 yrs aside :P
2016-11-29 21:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by picart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you feel isn't wrong, but you should leave you marriage. And it's probably a physical issue with the younger man. Women peak 35-40 something. It might not be a soul mate issue, unless you both are on the same mental plateau.
2006-11-27 17:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're married, so yes it's wrong to be dating anyone else. Second of all, you have a kid, making the dating a 23 year old who isn't your husband even worse. I believe that, in most cases, that love knows know bounds, but what you are describing is lust, not love. Your obligation as a mother is to do what's best for your child. Your obligation as a wife is to stay loyal to your husband until one of you dies. Dating this guy violates both of them. So to answer your question, yes, it is horrifyingly wrong to be dating this guy and if I were you, I'd break it off ASAP.
2006-11-27 17:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see nothing wrong with the age difference. after all, this is 2006 and i heard/read that one-third of all American women are dating or married to younger men. many younger guys even prefer older women. and most importantly, if you are both in love with each other, then that should be what you focus on. in fact, you really don't even need to ask this question. other people's opinions shouldn't sway you one way or another. go with what your heart tells you! the tricky part of this situation is that you are already married. you should handle the break-up in a kind, compassionate way and respect your husband's feelings. is your current husband a good guy? if so, then put yourself in his shoes and imagine if he was in love with another woman and didn't love you. how would you want him to treat you?! sensitivity is important. also, the fact that there's children involved complicates things. but, in the end, you should do what your heart tells you...and make damn sure that this young guy really loves you!!! good luck.
2006-11-27 17:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know for sure but I think you are just in lust. You will find out that there is a big age barrier there. You are married so what are you doing cheating? Yes I think there is something wrong with you. You need help!
2006-11-27 17:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the age thing, it's rarely judged as long as there are two consenting adults in the relationship. Where you went wrong is being married and starting the relationship with the younger person which could cause problems.
2006-11-27 17:46:15 · answer #11 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋