1st off I pay my child support by the week and I have never been late. Its the 1st check I write. I recently bought some land and a new home closer to my kids. I get them every other weekend and I hate it. I want more time with them like 1 week with me and 1 week with their mom. When she found out all this she got mad and started giving me a hard time. I got served with papers last week, she is claiming that now she is working and wants an increase in child support. She also claims I am manipulating the kids to stay with me more so my child support can be lowered ( this is not true). As well as a few more outragous accusations that were pretty hurtful to me. I am a good father and want whats best for my 2 kids ( girl 8 and boy 14). I am making about 15000 more a year than when we were divorced 3 yrs ago. I got a lawyer and filed for 50/50 time with kids and decrease in support if I get them more, and a contempt charge on her for not informing me of news with the kids.What do you think?
2006-11-27 17:24:01 · 9 answers · asked by kboy221 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You didn't say if your child support had ever been increased. You did however say your salary had increased somewhat. Have you considered that the cost of living goes up continuously? You might want to give that some thought. Everyday something is going up and raising children isn't cheap by any means. If you would on your own give your ex extra money to help with the cost of raising your children she wouldn't have to take you in for an increase. If you truly want the best for your children then you shouldn't mind paying more support. I am very lucky as I've never had to deal with child support but I know plenty people that have and more often than not the noncustodial parent thinks that what ever the judge ordered as support should be sufficient for their child's lifetime. They never consider that food, utilities, clothes, school and extra curricular activities fees and all the extras that a child needs increases every few months. Now be a GOOD FATHER and pay what it takes to help raise your children without whining about it.
PS Don't be selfish, making your children go back and forth is not good for them, I'm sure you miss them and they miss you but one would have to wonder about your motives considering you don't want to pay more now than you did 3 years ago. You have to put your children first.
2006-11-27 18:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't even think about it. They are your kids and your supposed to do what you have to do to take care of them and give them everything they need. They are supposed to come first not you or if you are or do get remarried that family. You had them and you should want to give them the best life you can. Not everything they want but everything they need, kids cost a lot to raise. You would probably be spending more if you were still married than what you pay in support now. Men that complain about child support are not real men. A real man wouldn't think twice about automatically increasing their child support every year, they know what it takes to raise a child. And they wouldn't think twice about making sure the kids have a stable home and 50/50 is not stable, that is very childish and selfish on your part. Seems like you just don't want to part with your money. Otherwise you would have filed for full or joint custody before all this came up. I bet the judge sees right through you.
Good luck to your ex wife.
2006-11-27 18:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the state you live in and how much money she has to take you back to court. If your best interest is in the children in some states at the age of 13 kids can decided who they want to live with. Also there are alot of people that work out joint custody arraingements that actually work one week on with one parent and than they switch and in some cases if both parents work support is optional or shared. How close are you to living by her and is she open minded or not? Maybe you can sit down and work out something in mediation. I know I wish my ex husband and I could have done something like that but he opted for every once in awhile for everything including seeing his son. It's nice to know that there are men out there willing to see and support their kids or like in my case support kids that arent theres in the beggining. Good luck she seems selfish on her part.
oh and about the increase there are some states after so many years you get a cost of living increase but if you have a new family that takes presidence over an increase since by law they don't take more than I believe it's 30 or 35% of your income towards child support. So if you have these kids with support and than say you have another kid that you have to support from another mother that child kinda looses out on the deal of percentages.
2006-11-27 17:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex can practically walk through the house naked on drugs and still have 100% custody. She can be surrounded by illiterate morons who spit chew into cups over a sleeping dog while watching football and mocking your kids when they open a book.
The reality is that (a) up to 27% of your income can be pre-tax deducted from your income + you cover full insurance. She can move just far enough away to make it so that you can barely even see your kids. She can refuse to drop them off, let them call you or contact you in any way without her immediate express permission as she sees fit.
And that pre-tax deduction (as in Illinois, for example), means that IRS sees you as if you are not being taxed enough. There is NOTHING in place that sees that you pay support in their eyes. So, you have to be careful with deductions or end up paying IRS at the end of each year (depending on your income).
Also: she can live with a guy who makes $80,000 a year, but as long as she isn't married to him she can pretend she's a single mom with no one to help her.
It's a huge mess in the family law court for a father. Nothing is being done to remedy the issue.
2013-11-07 11:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by Adam R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be really hard on the kids to move every week to a different house to be with a different parent. Even if they are still in the same school when they do it. Its just really hard on a child to have to do that.
Is there a way to compremise with your ex to spend more time with the kids.? See them after school. Have a few nights out with them for dinner or a movie or something like that.
Do they do things like after school sports that you can go with them and watch. ?
Am I right that she started working and with that says she needs more child support.? How is that.? Does she need it for child care.?
Are you involved with them in their school? That will help you be more informed with them.
Are they in the same school district with your new house.? Can they get droped off after school from the bus and that will be a way to spend more time with them .
Maybe you could try first with getting them everyweek and maybe more holidays and summer break.
Good Luck
2006-11-27 17:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what a mess
Continue to be the good Dad, document everything that happens with your X.
Do the kids want the 50/50 thing? What they nee is most important. It seems you see that,And the X is using the kids to get at you.
Hang in there
2006-11-27 17:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you did the right thing...she knows you have been there for your kids and you want whats best for them you are not there to support her you are there to support your kids...most men are not like you out here they barely pay support or dont give a s... but continue what you are doing and let the judge know how often you have them or want them and make sure you put the kids on your insurance if you didnt already that will help you with the stop of the increase trust me...and she cant get no further than that...because you are doing more than enough...but make sure you let the judge know you want to add them to your insurance if you hadn't ok...lol
2006-11-27 18:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
at the same time as the daddy of one among my little ones tried to get his baby help decreased, after he change into laid off, it change into denied because of his stay in female friend's income, inspite of the actuality that he tried to declare she change into only a roommate. He nonetheless had to pay an same quantity, which they deducted from his unemployment.
2016-10-07 21:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your ex-wife has an "accident"(dies) and then get custody of the child. Simple.
2006-11-27 17:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋