1st off I pay my child support by the week and I have never been late. Its the 1st check I write. I recently bought some land and a new home closer to my kids. I get them every other weekend and I hate it. I want more time with them like 1 week with me and 1 week with their mom. When she found out all this she got mad and started giving me a hard time. I got served with papers last week, she is claiming that now she is working and wants an increase in child support. She also claims I am manipulating the kids to stay with me more so my child support can be lowered ( this is not true). As well as a few more outragous accusations that were pretty hurtful to me. I am a good father and want whats best for my 2 kids ( girl 8 and boy 14). I am making about 15000 more a year than when we were divorced 3 yrs ago. I got a lawyer and filed for 50/50 time with kids and decrease in support if I get them more, and a contempt charge on her for not informing me of news with the kids.What do you think?
2006-11-27 17:23:07 · 6 answers · asked by kboy221 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
File a Petition in court to justify a decrease in the support being charged you and cite valid reasons. Regarding custody, prove in court that you have to right to have more time with the kids in order that they will have a good future.
2006-11-27 17:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many years in this life are we innocent and carefree? Bickering hurts them more than anybody & can leave them emotionally scarred for life. Really, are you that desperate for money?? Just pay whatever they require and be civil, and maybe she'll let them come around more. A week here and a week there doesn't sound good or stable to me. They're getting older now so they'll have some influence with their Mom. Just be there for them as much as you can! You're right, it's not fair she doesn't keep you informed, but sometimes life isn't fair and there's no easy solution. But just think, they're going to remember who did what, and they will respect you because you cared enough to put them first & be the bigger person.
2006-11-27 18:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely, go for it. Also, not to demean your ex-wife, but if she's claiming all that, I'd watch out for some more extravagant claims she may make in court.
You have a right to see your kids. Unless the judge decides that you are some sort of harm to them (I'm betting you're not), you'll probably get 50/50 split time. Unfortunately, I can't really help you with the financial parts... these decisions usually vary judge by judge.
2006-11-27 17:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by amg503 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that her working would lessen the amount of support she would receive, not increase it. I don't know what state you live in, so I can't be sure, but it makes no sense that they would increase it. As for wanting the children half time, I think you should go for it. You have just as much of a right to spend time with them as she does. I don't think you should bother with the contempt motion, unless she is failing to do something that was specifically stated in the marital settlement agreement. Be careful with contempt motions. You do not want to create too much animosity.
2006-11-27 17:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lawgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think much of anything, as I have only heard your side.
I will say this, when parents war, kids are often the casualties. In the end it should not be a continuation of the hostilities that ended your marriage. That already hurt your kids plenty.
For your children's sake, try and make peace with their Mother. It isn't about what you wan't or what she wan'ts it is about what your kids need.
A peaceful, happy childhood.
2006-11-27 17:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Norton N 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to discuss this with your attorney and not air your family's dirty laundry in public.
But that's just my layman's opinion...
2006-11-27 17:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋