I can't stand my life any more, what should i do?

Question

Right now i feel like i have no friends. Over the summer my best friend for 6 years told me she thought i was a Royal, self-centered, selfish, bossy, know-it-all, *****, we talked about it and i thought it was worked out but now she never talks to me. all my other friends say that they've never thought anything like that about me and don't know where she got it from but then again none of them would talk to me unless i drifted to their various groups throught the day. so in school i don't talk any more b/c i have no 1 to talk to.
At home my dad bitches at me 24/7 for things that arn't my fault or that i didn't do. i can't take it. he makes me feel like i'm good for nothing and like i can never do anything right. they my cats sick and every day he tells me how close he is to just shooting it i've had my cat for 8 years and i can't imagine loosing him
I cant take my life right now and i can't live like this any longer i have nothing to look forward to and no reason to get out of bed

Answer 1

I recommend one, become the person you would like to have as a best friend.

#2 Volunteer, give back to the community, this way you will reap rewards that can't be quantified by money but by the joy it brings your heart. It will change you for the better.

Once people start seeing these changes, then people will come around. Remember most people have short memories and are very forgiving.

Answer 2

It is pretty obvious that you are depressed.
Don't worry about the people at school.
Try to talk to your dad, and do what you can to keep peace in your family. Don't let your dad rattle you. I am sure he is looking out for you in his own way. If he thinks you should try harder, that is good advice, it will help make you strong enough to deal with life. The stronger and better disciplined you are, the easier your life will be.
Sure you have had your cat for a long time, but if it is old and sick, it may be kinder to have it out of it's misery. Maybe you should let a vet see your cat. Pets are replaceable, they have short life spans compared to ours, so we must deal with the grief of them passing. It helps get us ready for the bigger disappointments in life.
Friends will come and go but you have only one family.
Stay reasonable, no grand gestures. It is all little stuff, so don't make a big thing to get in the way.
Since you are not socializing, work on developing skills to help make a living. Everyone caters to those who have money.
You do have friends and they will come around after they notice you have not been hanging out with them for a few months.
If none of this works, get professional help.

Answer 3

I went through something similar where my brother wasn't talking to me and it was VERY hard because we are VERY close. He said he wanted to get rid of my cat because he is on medication and sick with a mysterious illness....I was very, very hurt for many months. Everybody noticed at work that I wasn't as happy and lost my sense of humor....I got really down and thought life wasn't worth living.....but it got better, like it always does...IT WILL GET BETTER....I promise you. It seems like when things go wrong in your life, everything in your life starts to get to you and it is overwhelming....I look at it as a lesson. A lesson to see how much you can take when things get really bad, can you stay strong and "tuff it out"? or give up and let life get the best of you? I don't know how old you are but I'm assuming that you are young.....just tell your dad that you're trying your hardest when ever he yells at you and that you would never forgive him for hurting your cat. If you aren't any of these names (royal self-centered selfish bossy know it all *****) then maybe something else is bothering your friend. You are not alone, life is testing you....be strong, be a good person.We are always here to listen and hopefully give you something to smile about.

Answer 4

life isn't supposed to be perfect. you are supposed to have problems, and if you didn't you'd be bored stiff.

it sounds like you are a teen-ager. in that case you are preparing for your own personal future. your body is doing all kinds of weird things transforming you from an adolescent to an adult. therefore your moods, be they good or bad, are also out of sync. that may be contributing to your feelings of helplessness.

the estrangement by other people....we've all been there and done that. man......you'll find that this too shall pass kind of like a storm ....only it's in your life.

if you slow down and don't expect so much to be perfect you might just have enough time to enjoy yourself some and make some nice/good memories to look back on.

i found a document that helped me no-end when i was younger. it's called "DESIDERATA". i didn't have anybody to help me at the time and this document said soooooooooo much. look it up on the Internet and see if you get something from it. and whatever you do .......don't ever lose that million dollar smile....you can't guess how handy it will be in future!

Answer 5

First the cat is not important it's an animal, so don't think about it to much. He will die one day anyway...For the friends part, well,
my advice is not to get emotional. Be more cold, passive with them. Neutral, think about yourself more. A friend is not he air you breathe neither the water you need to live. You don't have friends, you still live. You don't have air... you die. You get it. Most of the people take friendship seriously, especially when they are teenagers. The problem with school, is that it's your only world. You go to school and you have 1500 students there, so you will become with some of them friends. But you have a possibility of 10 lets say out of 1500. Go work, go train...watever. You will meet more people outside school, the world is big !

Good luck and hope you feel better...

PS : Continue to go to school, meet people outside, but go to school.

Answer 6

Hi friend,

I'm sorry life's so rough for you right now. I've had three best friends in my lifetime, and two dumped me for no apparent reason either. The third, however, I've been close to for 13 years now.

My parents weren't very understanding of my problems either, growing up. Instead of providing love and comfort, some parents only know how to be tough on their kids. It's no fun either, I know. I grew up feeling very alone and like there was no one out there who understood me. The thing that changed my life around was the relationship I developed with God through Jesus Christ. I don't know what your beliefs are, and please don't think I'm trying to shove this down your throat... but if you've never tried, please ask God to be with you and help you through these hard times. I promise you He will, and will show you in time what purpose you were created for. Good luck dear. :)

Answer 7

If your best friend isn't your best friend any more find more friends. Try something different-like joining a new club and you'll naturally meet new people and form friendships. Parents are sometimes just frustrated with their own life and instead of finding something to channel it they take it out on the wrong person. As for your cat, I hope he gets better, but if he doesn't, know that no one's pet lives forever and he's going to kitty heaven.

Answer 8

Talk to your school counselor. You need help, and someone to talk to, and that's what s/he's there for. I'm sorry to hear about your cat, by the way. I remember how much it hurt when my cat was sick, and at least my dad didn't threaten to kill the poor thing.

What your dad is doing sounds like emotional abuse, and he needs to understand that it's not okay. Your counselor may be able to help you find a way to relate to your dad so that you won't feel this way any more.

Answer 9

This is only a phase in your life - it will get better. I had much the same situation in highschool and had to work hard to go to college to get away from it.
Talk to some of the consellors at school - yeah, its geeky. So the F*** what! They might be able to help you - and what we're talking about is improving the quality of your life - there are no instant answers - just keep putting one foot in front of the other and KNOW that this situtation isnt permanent, it just FEELS like it.

Answer 10

Obvously, your best friend is not a friend. Friends do not hurt one another. As for the others, are they really friends? Perhaps it is time to take a good look at Self and see what you like or perhaps what you do not like about yourself. The people who create unhappiness in our lives are our best teachers. We learn from them and move on. Be a friend to those who are like you and appreciate you for yourself. As for your father, he is not a happy man and unfortunately is using you to vent. Again, a teacher. Learn from him. If nothing else, learn that he is not perfect and is sick as your cat. He is no one to judge you. I was physically abused by my father and verbally and physically abused by my alcoholic ex husband for 28 years. I drank to kill feelings. In January, I will celebrate 14 yrs of sobriety. Since I kicked my ex out, I found my strength, went to college and got a degree. We have one of two choices to make in this life....give up, or become stronger BECAUSE of our teachers. Is it easy? NO! Find your strength...it is there.