If my 16 year old daughter chooses to not see me, must I continue to pay child support until she is 18 years old?
2006-11-27 17:07:23 · 29 answers · asked by tnzbobz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of course you have to.
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2006-11-30 16:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you must. She is just being a 16 year old. I left home at 16. So be happy she is still home. I'm surprised that you ( as her father) would even consider stopping just because she isn't seeing you. That doesn't mean she doesn't need the support. Try talking to her and see if you can establish a new and healthier relationship with her. She won't forget you, ever. She is going through a phase. This too shall pass. Girls are hard to figure out, even for a father. Don't give up on her.
2006-11-27 17:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Unless you want to try and battle it out in court...which could take two years and by then it would be a moot point. Child support is NOT payment for visitation rights. Child support is for the care and feeding of the child while in the custody of the other parent. It costs money to raise a child, and just because that child CHOOSES not to see you doesn't mean she doesn't need to be fed clothed and have a roof over her head. You helped to create her you should be able to help support her.
2006-11-27 17:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, but let me say this as a single dad who never met my dad, trust me you can give her all the money in the world and it still wont pay for the relationship that you need to have with your daughter, hey who is the parent and who is the child, so make the effort to see her. I rent a car twice a month to drive 1 hr away to see my daughter and i talk to her every night on the phone. Also what i pay to rent the car does not come from child support thats my cash and trust me its worth it. If you dont you will regret it later on in life.
2006-11-27 17:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Big Steve 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is your problem? Of course you need to pay your child support. Remember, you are not paying for for visitation- you are paying for the support of your daughter. Making child support payments has nothing to do with the psychological mess you two have with each other. Plus, if you do not pay your child support like you were probably court ordered to do, you will have other credit and legal issues to deal with. You have less than two years... just stick with it to avoid the headaches of not.
2006-11-27 17:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by eldvb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And every month or every month or so, check in with her to let her know that you care and are available to talk whenever she wants. Give her your cell/work numbers, etc. Even if she never uses them, you will know you did what you were the adult and reached out.
On the flip side, if she does come around and wants to spend time with you, don't be a fool. Money will not buy her affection for you. She will still resent you for whatever reason and she will not appreciate or take care of the things you purchased for her.
Good luck. Be patient.
2006-11-27 17:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by YaYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you withhold child support, besides being illegal, you risk communicating to her that you are a deadbeat. If you are a good mother to her, do your best, and "tow the line," eventually, she will very likely "come around" and the two of you may enjoy an improved or really good relationship, but withholding anything that has to do with her needs, is cruel.
I went through a really ugly divorce and my children didn't want to see me based on the lies my ex told them. I paid my child support, but would sneak to have lunch with them at school, movies, church, and met them anywhere every chance I could, and eventually, wild horses couldn't hold them back. They decided to come live with me and now I am very close to all of three of them. Hang in there!
2006-11-27 17:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what the courts told you to do. So if the courts said to pay child support, then you must.
2006-11-27 17:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it is your obligation to support her and it is not a conditional decision. Children who have to go through a separation of parents suffer greatly. The childs needs are not to be withheld because of emotional problems or because you feel its unfair that she wont see you. Its a natural consequence to the situation.
2006-11-27 20:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do. She's still your child. I would try to resolve the reason she doesn't want to see you. Maybe you could start by writing her a letter. She may not answer but at least she knows you tried.
2006-11-27 17:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Because they still eat, breath and need things even when we're not looking. And in California you pay more to NOT see your kids. More visitation means less cash.
2006-11-27 17:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋