too, we just met at the internets, and we are really half world apart having different nationalities...help me please, shall i continue with him...or just forget about him? I have no idea if he has a plan to make formal divorce from his ex...my feelings of meeting him one day depends on this.
2006-11-27 17:03:07 · 26 answers · asked by Nami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just met him, don't push, just subtlely make him talk and share what are his plans...
"One of the keys to love is to give, share and open up without loosing yourself.When you love, you often drop your boundaries and natural limits. The desire to abandon yourself in a stream of passion can be overwhelming.This sudden opening sometimes leads to back clashes which hurt you and send you back to the starting point.This happens a lot in the dating scene. You feel attraction waking up and that's it. You could loose yourself on the spot! You are taken by this overwhelming flow of energy which dances in you like a spiral of fire: "Falling in love".
The art of loving is very much the art of giving and responding to these emotions without losing your personal foundation.
We could call this "wise love". We all agree, we don't want to kill the magic. Simply stay awake!Going with the flow without losing a sense of direction and realism is something which empowers love rather than making it weaker.
You fall in love and straight away start imagining a long life together. Expressions like "Soul mate", "He is the one" or "Mr. Right" come to your mind.
Big mistake!!!
You met this guy two hours ago and your emotions are already
galloping, building dreams and incredible expectations about the
future.
This is the Romantic Dream.
True, it is beautiful in itself.
The good news is that there is nothing wrong with you.
Dreaming has to do with desire.
It is normal to project yourself into the future and have wishes.
This romantic dream can power your day and give you immense joy. The risk however is to be very disappointed when it does not happen.
The goal is simple: enjoy the romance, enjoy the dream, fantasies and add this dimension of realism which says something like:
"You know what? I dream and I like it. It's okay for me to dream. It feeds me and makes me happy. I know it is just a dream at this stage and there are no guarantees. I stay awake and don't give myself away. I enjoy this love experience right now for what it is. A beautiful moment. I enjoy the moment for what it is. I don't give myself away. I don't make promises. I don't give away my life. I simply enjoy a romantic vision in this moment. I have no expectations and while I do enjoy this experience I know I am and stay 100% emotionally free!"
So don't forget about him, just try to know him better, keeping everything open to see how it evolves... Just keep your cool
2006-11-27 17:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are those who will get a divorce and there are those who won't. Only, why would he need too get one if you meet him and start a relationship anyway. Things change continuously with relationships and he could end up with his wife again after being with you. If he's seriously interested in you two being together, wait until he's free to do so. The way you start out in a relationship has a big factor on how you may end up or what could happen.
2006-11-27 17:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough bind here because you don't know what level of committment this person is in. it really does not matter if you are different after all opposite sometimes do attract.
But the question is did you ever have a heart to heart with this guy. You say he is in love with you so surely you guys are at a point where you can discuss your feelings and see where this relationship is going.
The question is if you guys met on the internet and not even close distance and you have not met. How do you know if he loves you? How do you know he will live where you are? You have to have a lot of conversations with this gentleman and really have to talk without the use of the internet and in person to see if you really love him.
2006-11-27 17:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These relationships RARELLY work out. LIke never. You are both needy and you have the world between you that will make things seem romantic. But, in reality you guys have created a fairy tale relationship that only exists on the computer.
You really have NO idea what this guy is like or what his world is like. He just might want a free way to get to the united states.
And WHO knows if he actually is seperated.
Pleas be cautious.
2006-11-27 17:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, look at so many mistakes ppl have made on the Internet, a small percentage may be ok, but few are. find someone near your area or especially single, anything can be promised on here only to lead to a very saddened person of which caan last many years or a lifetime. You don't really know this guy only for the words he used, please go by you doubtful instincints os which you show in your question good luck
2006-11-27 17:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up you know what the answer is. When two people are not divorced it is easier for them to work things out. How can you be in love with someone you do not really know. You do not know enough about this person to be in love with him, you could be in love with just an idea. He could be just telling you what ever he thinks you want to hear. How do you know when he is lying or not? What if you are putting your life in danger? Do you know where he living, do you have his phone number for work and home? Have you spoken to his friends or family that know him? I could be wrong about this person, but be very careful. Listen to your inter voice. good luck.
2006-11-27 17:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to have his cake and eat it too. If he keeps making excuses like "the time isn't right" and so on, then he's just stringing you along. You're better than that. Don't waste your time on him. If he really loved you he would have been divorced first. How do you really know he's separated?
2006-11-27 17:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by C_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a guy who was online, and i thought that we where so perfect for each other... I gave up most of life, and it came to bite me in the ***.. He was nothing like i thought he was.. :(and I made some life changing mistakes, because of what I thought was real, that really wasnt.
If he was not happy in his marriage, he would have been divorced already..
I think that you should forget about him.. and move on.. PLEASE don't make the same mistake that I did..
oh, have u talked on the phone with him before?
good luck..
2006-11-27 17:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by nastymix1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is only separated then he isn't free for you to have anything to do with. He is still legally married and until every i is dotted and every t is crossed on a final decree of divorce you have no right to meet him.
2006-11-27 17:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'd rather wait for him to be divorced before you continue dating. See how he reacts. If he leaves you alone, he was just using you. If he files for divorce in a timely fashion, he'll be legit soon enough. If he asks you to wait on him until whenever, with no end in sight, move on.
2006-11-27 17:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋