I care for my husband but I have no love for him. He degrades & belittles me in front of anyone including strangers. He also does it in front of our kids!! So now its not just him its my 3&5 yearolds too.Is it really worth this much pain & heartache???
2006-11-27 17:02:05 · 17 answers · asked by jessieslast2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well a hard question, but if you have tried everything and talked to your husband about how you feel and he wont change then its time to end it.
be careful the fact that he digrades you and belittles you publicly is often the early signs of an abusive man. he is on a power trip and whats you to feel bad about yourself and make you think everything that happens to go wrong is your fault. once he gets you comfortablw with the he may get physically abusive to you. or else he may threaten to or actually harm your children.
be careful and make a plan for your exit. once you make up your mind you need to follow through and leave and don't ever look back
if you want to talk to someone you can email me. ive been there and im out now.
2006-11-27 17:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by sexy Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy $hit! That is the worst situation I've been hearing about lately. That husband of yours needs to start letting you in on the discipline of BOTH your children. Apparently, they know not what it's like to be without you. It sounds like everyone is taking your patience for granted. I think your husband is due for a confrontation. And if you want a mediator of some kind present, do it. Even if that person is a friend of yours with an open mind (not quick to get him mad, if you know what I mean).
Your children must respect you. It is for their own good to do so. Mothers don't always know best, but they're not supposed to suspect that until their teen years and that's a natural rebellion time. I believe this issue definitely started with your spouse. If talking doesn't work, offer an ultimatum (although I hate doing such things) Sometimes there is no other way to gain control back into your life. Good luck
2006-11-28 01:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must find a way out of this mess! I am a woman who believes in the sanctity of marriage but I do not believe God intended you to be a mental punching bag for your husband. He is teaching your kids to disrespect you. He is detrimental to your health and the well being of your children. You must leave. You and your children will need to get counseling and recover from all of this. Get them out from under your husband's influence now before they turn into people like your husband! God bless you and your children. You deserve so much more happiness than living a miserable existence like you are.
2006-11-28 01:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it to be degraded like that. No one deserves to be treated that badly. If he really appreciated you as his wife and the mother of his children, then a cruel word would never leave his mouth about you in front of anyone. He doesn't act as if he cares in public or private, and the fact that you don't love him says it all. Life is to short to be miserable. Your kids need to be away from him too, so they can learn to respect you and others.
2006-11-28 01:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by C_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is teaching your children how to be treated or how to treat a woman and children. Do you want your children to repeat this pattern?
It is better for children to be from a broken home, than to live in one.
Hon, the heart ache will be worse if you stay and your children and you are emotionally and verbably battered
Believe me your kids might turn to rinks and drugs to ease their pain.
He is NOT an exapmle of a man, husband or father. Will he go to counselilng?
2006-11-28 01:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I don't think so. You need to take back that control from your kids. You will never be able to do that if you stay with your husband. Nothing about that is ever easy, but the first step is to leave, then you can make things right with your kids. Make things as they should be. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-11-28 01:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is worth that. You should be long gone, that man needs to learn some manners. It'd be a cold day in hell before I'd allow my kids to belittle me and I don't care how old they may be.
2006-11-28 01:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And it won't get any better.
Find a counselor with Catholic Charities or Lutheran Social Services or with your county social services department. Most have a sliding scale, if money is a problem. You need to weigh your options, for your sake as well as for the kids' sake.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 01:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by masha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to decide whats best for you. if you cringe when he's near you then its time to hit hte door. but if you love him still talk to him tell him how you feel and if he doesnt listent hen its time to show him what its like with out you. just leave you dont have to get divorced just leave for a couple weeks give him a look what life is with out you. you never know you may enjoy it and decide you deserve better.
i wish you the best of luck and hope things get better for you
2006-11-28 01:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by ANGIE C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out just as soon as you can. You don't deserve what he is doing and neither do your children. After awhile, you won't even have any respect for yourself. You see the problem now, so get walk away and get the respect you deserve. He is mentally abusing you.
2006-11-28 01:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋