Breaking up is tough, usually unexspected, and often unwanted, how did you cope with the loss? Did you morn for days, maybe years or were you healed by positive influences? What advice would you give someone going through a break up?
2006-11-27 17:01:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I broke up with my past 2 boyfriends.
One because he was moving away and plus, my feelings "conveniently" dwindled.
The second because he wasn't putting in a lot of effort into the relationship.
The first breakup was hard because he was my first real boyfriend and I loved hanging out with him. We're still friends now. I was pretty torn up about it for a few weeks or so??
The second breakup I hardly morned at all. It was his loss.
The advice I would give to someone going through a breakup is to realize that God has a plan for us. He will bring us the one in His time. We go through many heartbreaks in life and many experiences. They all happen for a reason. We may not know the reason at the time or ever... but there's a reason. We just have to learn from the experiences and use them to build the future.
My current boyfriend and I have been friends for a long time and little did I know we were going to end up together. He was under my nose the entire time. We've been together for 9 1/2 months now. : }
2006-11-27 17:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, there are so many...sometimes I have been dumped and other times I have been the dumper. Neither position is easy. The actual breakup has been from just avoiding contact to screaming at each other. The duration from a few weeks to a few years...depending how long and involved the relationship was
The best way to get over it either way is to be active and involved in things that you love doing and try to jump into a rebound relationship to fill the void in your life as that is when you will make the worst choices in whom you allow in your life.
The most positive influence in your life is God and prayer and trust that things have happened for a reason and that things will work out for the best and that life is a process, a learning experience.
2006-11-28 01:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good question. I was dating a girl for 4 years in college. My parents loved her, her parents loved me. They had wedding plans for both of us. Well she gets really drunk on a girl's night out and sleeps with a random guy. She was cool about it and told me, but I couldn't deal with it so I broke up with her. I could not get over her though. We dated off and on after that and then broke up for good. I would say it took me a good six months to finally get over her. We still keep in touch five years later, and she is married now. It was probably for the best.
2006-11-28 01:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wont tell the public about my breakup story, but if you want to know email me and i can tell you what you want to know
2006-11-28 01:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by sexy Deb 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋