does anyone else TTC feel like failure every month when it doesn't happen?

Question

My husb and I have been married 4 years and have been off the pill for three months. I know, by tracking my temp and CM, about when the prime time is each month. My husband doesn't want to schedule sex or for me to keep track of it. I guess I don't want to either. I mean, I want to keep things natural and fun. But I've been through 3 cycles now with no luck conceiving. My sis-in-law conceived on first try. My sister conceived with her husb while on BC! I guess I thought it'd be as easy for me as it was for them. So every month it doesn't happen, part of me thinks I'm a failure and part wants to blame my husband for not actively "helping" more (i.e., help make sex happen more frequently). Can anyone else relate? I just need to know I'm not alone if I'm not!

Answer 1

i can really relate to you. My husband and i have been trying to conceive for 4 months now, and no positive test yet. I've done all the steps you have and still nothing. However this time i have to admit i just "feel " different so i'm hoping when i test next week that it will be a plus.
I know that people always say it happens when your not trying and when your not stressed, but it's really hard not to think about it when ttc because you want to have a child so badly. Sounds like your doing all the right things. Believe me you are not a failure, i think God decides when it's time for you to have children and maybe you haven't had your time yet, but hopefully it's right around the corner. Hang in there you'll get it.....

Answer 2

You're definitely NOT alone. I think er'1 who is TTC and haven't yet feels this way. My husband and I have a baby who is almost 13 mths old and have been trying 4 about 3 months now 2 get prego again. We want our babies close in age, neway it still has yet 2 happen and I get down sometimes as well. But then I remember when I got prego wit my 1st born that I didn't plan nething or take my temp and stuff like that. I jus let things happen naturally, it happened when I least expected it and I didn't worry about it I jus let it flow. And I ended up prego. I kno that if u haven't been trying 4 at least a year u really don't have nething 2 worry about. It takes a lot of women a couple of mths 2 conceive. Stop stressing over it and have fun wit ur hubby, it is bound 2 happen.. And when it does u will be super excited!!! Good luck

Answer 3

Yes, I can relate.

My only sister is younger than me, so I don't have other women to compare myself to; all I know is that my mom conceived us on the first try for each.

I keep track of absolutely everything and sex happens when it's supposed to, but nothing comes of it. I know it's still only like a 30% chance, but it gets discouraging. Every month I wonder if there's something wrong with me physically, or if there's some reason the powers that be have decided I'm not fit to have a child.

You're so not alone. I'd definitely recommend joining a TTC group or message board, like the ones at justmommies.com or a myriad of other sites. It makes me feel better sometimes to read all the messages of other people going through the same things.

Answer 4

If this makes you feel better I've been TTC for 4 years now and now at the point where I've given up. I'm not doing anything anymore to make it happen. I got tired of crying and getting depressed every time I got my period. You've only been trying for a few months, don't worry it'll happen, remember every body is different. My sister got pregnant on her first time having sex, my mom never had a problem getting pregnant but for some reason it's not happening for me. I do believe it will happen when it's meant to just pray be patient and most important DON'T STRESS. Good luck and lots of baby dust to you:)

Answer 5

You are not alone. I have been trying to get pregnant since June and no luck yet. I have had chemical pregnancies between then and now but nothing has stuck (for lack of a better word). And on top of that it seems that all the women in my family are getting pregnant and while I'm happy for them it still stings a little bit. It makes it so much more frustrating every month to get my period and know I have to worry another month about trying.

Answer 6

I know how you feel my husband and I have been trying for a year. This is the first time I have ever try ed to have a baby. I have two girl and we want a boy. I was not even trying when I got PG with them. So now I am trying why am I not getting PG.