So i have these 3 best friends. Weve been friends for quite a while. Well 2 of them decided that they were tired of our other friend. So for the last couple of weeks they've been totally ragging on her and leaving her out of everything and making me part of it. I still partly want to be friends with her. But that means losing 2 friends that im even closer to. So should i dump one friend.... or lose 2? Help!!!
2006-11-27 16:58:18 · 7 answers · asked by Megan_016 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
stay out of it!!!!!
Declare neutrality!!!
and no matter how hard it is don't become a mediator or messanger between them it es best to just tell them "I am still your friend and I wand you to be mine but I want to stay out of your buisiness and let you guys work it out"
of course telling them how you feel always helps
2006-11-27 17:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by 1-4-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one...lets see if all of them were really your frineds they would not make you choose and put you in the middle. They put you in the middle because on a unconscience level they want you to solve the problem..when the problem lies between the one's who are having there disagreement. Whatever they are arguing about is probably dumb and because of lack of communication the whole thing got blown out of porportion. Or there is some jelously involved. Make all of your friends sit down and talk and tell them that you dont mind being the peace keeper but you arenot going to pcik friends so have them solve the problem...even if they have to scream and cuss at each other at least it will be off of their chest.
2006-11-28 01:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough choice, but think of it this way...
Do you want to be that girl?
Maybe the next time your friends start talking badly about her you can say, "Hey, you guys, she's my friend. I'd really rather not hear that kind of talk about her."
This might make them decide that they don't like you anymore.
But you will feel better about yourself.
2006-11-28 01:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be friends with whomever you choose. Don't let your friends choose your friends for you! Just because they do not get along doesn't mean you have to get involve with their problems. If they don't want to be friends with you because you hang out with the other, then they aren't good friends to keep!
2006-11-28 01:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should "lose" those so called friends because it is very transparent that they do not know how to be loyal. Friendship requires loyality and longevity; two attributes that those two lack. Be a friend to the one friend.
2006-11-28 01:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to be friends with people who turn on other friends?whats tostop you from being next
2006-11-28 01:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by jez 13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some friends you have, what if they decide your next.
2006-11-28 01:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋